3. A transformation happens.
Nothing will be the same again. She understands that she can’t always be the one taking up others’ burdens without being offered the same. She isn’t a toy anyone can pick up and play with simply because she is nice enough to want to be there for them.
4. She builds a fort for protection.
When a good girl gets played, it will only leave her unable to fully trust anyone in her life. She’s worried that she’ll allow a person in only to see the whole thing play itself out again so she withdraws into her mind palace and keeps everyone else out.
5. She is no longer approachable.
The hurt that she has experienced leaves her mind clouded. She blames herself for being so gullible and letting others play her. With all this filling her mind, she is no longer easy to approach. Her kindness gives way to sarcasm and even those who genuinely wish to help her are turned away.
6. No one gets to keep her.
It doesn’t matter whether other people were nice to her because she is no longer able to trust them. She only saw the best in everyone and that only caused her pain. To protect herself, she leaves behind even the people who truly love her.
7. She becomes her own savior.
Before she’d go to other people whenever she needed assistance and in return, she’d be there for them when they needed her. But she’s distanced herself and she is in too much pain to offer comfort to someone else. She has to help herself before she can help them.
8. She keeps all that she used to give others for herself.
She’d give the best of herself to everyone around her, even if they didn’t appreciate her for it. So now, she keeps her best for herself. She does what makes her feel good and makes her be better. She begins to treat herself the way she used to treat everyone else.
9. The truth is bitter but necessary and so she learns.
She didn’t ask for these lessons but she has to learn them, even though she never wanted to. She has learned that life is difficult at times and not everyone is as nice as she is. She had to learn all this with a lot of pain but now, she’ll never forget it.
10. She knows that trying to make everyone happy is harmful to her.
While her perspective made her feel good earlier, she has now learned that trying to keep everyone happy just leaves her feeling worn out in the end. She wasn’t able to tell them to stop talking, even when she had nothing left to give. But now, she knows that she needs to make herself happy first.
11. She realizes that there are bad people in this world.
She won’t use anyone the way they use her but that doesn’t prevent others from playing with her emotions. The world doesn’t keep you safe just because you don’t mean any harm and she’s learned this lesson too well now.