4. Stop chasing men
“Single is not a status. It is a word that best describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.” – unknown
2020 is the time you stop searching for dates everywhere you go. It’s the year you stop pursuing men and let them chase you. Instead of wasting your time on looking for potential dates, utilize the time by enjoying your own company, food or activity you are engaged in at that moment. The more you pursue for a soulmate, the more anxious and depressed you’re going to feel. You will lose your inner peace and feel emotionally drained every time you face rejection. This is the year you focus on yourself. You matter the most.
5. Set your standards
Define what you want from your life and your relationships. Write down a list of all the behaviors and traits you expect from a romantic partner on one side and list down all the things that are a turn off of deal breaker for you on the other side. You can take cues from your previous dating and relationship experiences to set your standards for future relationships. This process makes you more aware of what you are looking for in a relationship. After you have set your standards, make sure you don’t settle for anything less. You can put anything in the list that’s important to you, regardless of how silly it may sound.
6. Nurture friendships
“Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.” – Elie Wiesel
You need your gal pals to give you some mental and emotional support when you are feeling down. But most of all, you need them to hang out and have fun. However, being in a relationship can seriously affect your friendships as you start spending more and more time with your bae. But being a single gal, you can now reconnect with your old besties and go out with them for coffee dates or cocktails almost on a regular basis. Being single is also a great opportunity for making new friends. You can meet different types of people and learn about new cultures, experiences and situations.
7. Be a “YES” woman
Have an open mind and an open heart and start saying “yes” to different opportunities, including dating. In 2020, make a promise to yourself that you will learn a new skill or try something new every month. You can also share this resolution with a friend so that you motivate each other and achieve your goals. Moreover, once you’ve set your dating standards, you can be more open to going on dates and just enjoy yourself instead of looking for a relationship on the first date. Knowing what you want from a man will help you understand who is good for you and you should skip.
8. Don’t compare yourself to others
“If you really are going to be a happy single, you have to stop treating being single as the annoying time that you pass between relationships and embrace it. Rather than focusing on what you lack, focus on what you have: You.” – Natalie Lue
When you’re a single woman, you start comparing yourself to other people who are in seemingly happier relationships. This leads to disappointment and you start feeling sorry for yourself. In 2020, promise yourself that you will be more aware about not doing this even once. You have a wonderful life right now and when the time comes, you will be in a healthy, happy relationship. Moreover, what you see on Instagram and all those “relationship goals” posts, those do not reflect reality. In real life, relationships take a lot of effort and patience. So go ahead and enjoy the life you have right now. It’s high time you stop making yourself feel bad just because your single.
“Drop the last year into the silent limbo of the past. Let it go, for it was imperfect, and thank God that it can go.” – Brooks Atkinson
We all have our insecurities. It’s what holds us back in life. But 2020 is the time you say goodbye to all those insecurities you’ve been carrying so carefully all these years. Write down all the negative qualities or flaws you may think you have on a piece of paper. Once you are done, tear up the paper and burn it. Watch your insecurities and false beliefs turn to ash and then dump it in the trash can. Now that your insecurities are gone, focus on your strengths and work on your weaknesses.