The Lifelong Effects of Childhood Neglect By Parents

 May 18, 2019

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If you are an adult who was neglected, please know that you can find your true sense of self and worthiness. You don’t have to take counsel from the wounded parents who treated you badly. You can define yourself, and live and model a different kind of life and parenting style with your own children.

This starts with working on your personal trauma and getting it processed. Don’t go it alone; get help when needed and don’t minimize the pain. You may think it is too selfish or self-absorbed to discuss your feelings, but they will catch up to you in the long run.

As Alice Miller said: “I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively — because idealization of his parents was essential for his survival.”

She added, “Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one’s parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of a child.”

Take a moment to think about how it feels when someone truly believes in you and validates your needs and feelings. Empathy is the greatest gift to give and receive.

 

Written by Karyl McBride Ph.D

Karyl McBride, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers.

Originally appeared on PsychologyToday

Recovery Resources for Daughters, Sons and Partners of Narcissists

Books

Dr. Karyl McBride’s new book: Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist, and Heal Your Familyhttps://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/divorcing-narcissist-book/

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/about-will-i-ever-be-good-enough/

Audio Books

Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist, and Heal Your Family Audio Version: https://www.blackstonelibrary.com/will-i-ever-be-free-of-you?format=MP3+CD

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Audio Version: https://tantor.com/will-i-ever-be-good-enough-karyl-mcbride-phd.html

Surveys

“50 Ways to tell if you are in a Relationship with a Narcissist” Survey: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/narcissist-relationship-survey/

“Do You Have a Narcissistic Parent?” Survey: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/narcissistic-parent-survey/

“Is this your Mom?” Survey: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/narcissistic-mother-survey/

Workshops & Intensives

Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Virtual Workshop. Online workshop in the privacy of your own home, complete with video presentations and homework assignments: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/workshop-overview-healing-the-daughters-of-narcissistic-mothers

Daughter and son intensives: One on one sessions with Dr. McBride: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/resources/daughter-intensives

Small group intensives: Build and strengthen individual recovery work and create amazing connections within a community of support: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/small-group-intensives/

Other Links:

Book and workshop website: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com

Recent Interviews and Q&A Sessions: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/katie-hafner-author-mother-daughter-interviews-dr-karyl-mcbride/

Private practice website: https://karylmcbridephd.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrKarylMcBride 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/karylmcbride

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkarylmcbride

Google+: https://plus.google.com/112423739623794466157

Psychology Today blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love

Other Helpful Resources

ShareKids Co-Parenting Calendar

Our Family Wizard Co-Parenting Calendar

Trauma Treatment – International EMDR Website

Resources for Suicide Prevention:

If you are in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741.

References:

  • Photo Source: Altanaka, (2015). Retrieved from http://www.istockphoto.com/photo/portrait-of-sad-blond-teen-girl-gm485139722-71772363

 

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