Negative interpretations create separation. They place blame and intent on our partners that may not actually be there. Being able to recognize this can help turn your relationship around. It will help you and your partner to stop pointing fingers and to start holding hands through the challenges of life.
With love, Kyle Benson
- Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, and Susan Blumberg ↩
- Note: This indicates unresolved injuries. If this occurs in your relationship, use this exercise. ↩
- Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert. One of my favorite books. ↩
- Fighting for Your Marriage and The Marriage Clinic ↩
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- Fighting for Your Marriage. ↩
Negative interpretations in romantic relationships is one of the biggest reasons when it comes to breakups and separation. Yes, no relationship is a bed of roses, but assumptions about your partner can just make things worse for you and your relationship. Have faith in your partner and be transparent with him. If something is bothering you, have an open-minded discussion with him regarding that. This will help both of you understand what the problem is, instead of assuming what you think is right.
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