How to cope with a narcopath
Are you stuck with a narcopath and don’t know how to deal with them? As they are highly manipulative, it is likely that you believe they are not as toxic as they behave and they are actually a good person inside. You may even be prone to believe that you can ‘fix’ them eventually. This is why the best thing you can do is accept the reality, gain awareness and walk away from the narcissistic sociopath. Author Arlin Cuncic writes “The first step to dealing with this person is to stop reinterpreting the facts. Don’t give someone with a narcissistic sociopathic personality the benefit of the doubt.”
If they are not abusive, then you need to be more assertive, establish healthy boundaries to protect yourself and realize that they will never change. However, if you are in an abusive relationship, especially one that involves physical violence, then you need to leave immediately and seek support from trusted friends and family. You can never win an argument against them.
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Here are some other effective ways to cope with a narcopath:
1. Know that they are hard to deal with
It will always be challenging to cope with narcissistic sociopaths. They have poor boundaries and no regard for anyone’s rights or feelings. Clinical psychologist and Harvard lecturer Craig Malkin, Ph.D. says “There is no ‘coping with’ malignant narcissists, except to stand up for ourselves, speak to those who can help, assert ourselves, and enlist allies for protection.”
2. Completely avoid them
When you can identify the signs of a narcopath, you need to avoid spending too much time with them. If your boss or coworker has this personality disorder, then minimize contact as much as possible and avoid engaging in arguments with them. But most of all, avoid being in relationships with them.
3. Don’t challenge them
You will never win against a narcopath. They are not reasonable or logical individuals. When challenged, they may become highly aggressive, hostile and retaliate in whatever way they can to win. They will not refrain from insulting you to control and dominate the situation. The best way to deal with them is to communicate in a non-confrontational way, set your boundaries, make your point and leave. Do not allow them to suck you into their toxic world. “If you do need to confront the person, try not to do so in front of a large audience or they will want to save face and will feel more threatened, sparking more retaliation,” suggests author and wellness coach Elizabeth Scott, MS.
4. Forget about changing them
Understand that you will never be able to change them or make them a better person. If you expect them to change their personality or behavior then you will simply set yourself up for disappointment.
5. Walk away
If you are in an abusive relationship with a narcopath, then you need to leave immediately. “Since some narcissists can be abusive, it’s important to ask yourself if you’re safe and leave if you can,” adds Craig Malkin. Talk to a loved one or a mental health professional to figure out how you can safely leave a toxic, abusive relationship with a person having both NPD & ASPD.
6. Seek support
Seek help and support from trusted and loving family members and friends to overcome the abuse and toxicity that you will experience while being with a malignant narcissist. If the effects of the abuse are too severe, then it’s best to consult a therapist or a counselor for professional guidance and help.
Narcopaths are charming yet toxic
Certified psychiatrist/psychoanalyst Carrie Barron, M.D. explains a narcopath as “intelligent, high functioning, soft-spoken, charming, tearful/seemingly emotional, gracious, well mannered, kind and have the ability to form relationships.” This can not only make them appealing, but make it hard to identify their real personality. They are paranoid, sadistic and ruthless people who lack morals, empathy and conscience.
If you know someone who meets the medical diagnostic criteria for a person with both Narcissistic personality disorder and Antisocial personality disorder, then it is important that you avoid them as they can be dangerous. Although not all narcissistic sociopaths are homicidal or suicidal, they are highly manipulative and exploitative individuals. So make sure to set strong personal boundaries, distance yourself from them and look for a safe way to leave.
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