Just when they realize they have gained your trust and have you in their control, that is exactly when the abuse begins. It often begins small with indirect criticisms and insults disguised as jokes. Soon, every discussion starts to revolve around them and everything you do starts to seem wrong and inappropriate. As the constant criticism starts to eat away your self-esteem and self-confidence, you become increasingly co-dependent on them. You begin to forgive their abusive and toxic behavior mistaking it as their love for you. And this makes it hard for you to leave them. The more ASPD traits a narcissistic person has, the more they will emotionally and mentally exploit you.
“Individuals with this profile can form connections with others. However, they process information in ways that can hurt society in general, but also the people who love or depend on them,” writes Rhonda Freeman Ph.D. Malignant narcissism or ‘narcopathy’ can prove to be highly problematic for the victims. They can often make you feel stressed, anxious, intimidated and afraid of the narcopath due to their suspiciousness, hypersensitivity, impulsivity, aggression and lack of empathy. They can resort to hostility when you challenge their opinions or show confidence as it makes them look ‘bad’ in front of others or even you. Rhonda adds “Those who interact with malignant narcissists often consider them jealous, petty, thin-skinned, punitive, hateful, cunning, and angry.”
Narcopaths are also highly likely to cheat repeatedly with multiple partners and find a way to maintain the relationship as well. They are also poor parents who can abandon children without hesitation. Walking away from the relationship and going no contact is perhaps the best way to deal with a narcopath when you’re in an abusive relationship with them.
Can a narcopath be dangerous?
A narcopath can be harmless or they may be highly dangerous to others and themselves. They can be extremely abusive and are known to have suicidal and homicidal tendencies. These individuals can be difficult to tolerate whether you know them personally or professionally. It can be especially difficult for you if you are in an intimate or romantic relationship with them. People with Cluster-B personality disorders can successfully manipulate their partners to stay with them even after years of abuse. Narcopaths can also be physically and sexually abusive to their children and may even murder their children, in rare cases. These individuals are also highly prone to criminal behavior and imprisonment.
According to a 2017 study, around 83% of men and 87% of women have a personality disorder when committing a crime. Antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) is one of the most common mental disorders associated with criminal behavior. One study reveals that substance & alcohol abuse and dependence along with “antisocial personality disorder are particularly associated with an increased risk of violent/homicidal behaviors.” However, as narcopaths lack any concern regarding the consequences of their action or for the safety of others and themselves, they are highly prone to suicidal behavior as well. Studies reveal that rates of unnatural death due to suicide, accidents and homicide are extremely high among people with ASPD. A recent scientific analysis explains that antisocial personalities have “increased mortality rates due to accidents, traumatic injuries, suicides, and homicides.”
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The female narcopath
It’s not only men who can be dangerous narcissistic sociopaths. Narcopathic women can also be dangerous to others especially as they are not expected to be affected by such personality disorders. In fact, female narcopaths are actually protected in the society due to existing stereotypes of being gentle, protective and sweet. People usually don’t suspect a woman to be ruthless, cruel or vindictive. They don’t expect a mother to neglect, or abandon her children; they don’t expect a wife to abuse her husband or drive him to suicide. Bestselling author Shahida Arabi writes “Female narcissists, especially if they also possess antisocial traits, can cause just as much psychological harm as male malignant narcissists.”
Research indicates that female homicidal behavior is often associated with mental and personality disorders. But these women are less physically abusive than their male counterparts. As they are often hard to identify, such women are usually known as a Covert Narcopath.
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