NARCISSISTS AND EMPATHS: THE EGO DYNAMIC

Narcissists, on the other hand, don’t have an authentic self.  If they had one as a child, it was stifled by ego as a defense mechanism.  Their ego demands attention to its hurts, traumas and concerns in a way that insists upon separation and control.  This prevents their ability to bond with other people, and explains why their whole concept of reality consists of fulfilling the demands of their ego.  Therefore, they use people without concern for the pain and trauma they cause them.

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When the Empath and Narcissist enter into a relationship together, it creates a magnetic, yet vibrationally dysfunctional union because the Empath gives to the point of complete and utter exhaustion.  They will give every last effort to “fix” the Narcissist and the relationship, but it never happens.  The Narcissist cannot assess another’s perspective because their ego won’t allow that, thus there is no motive for the Narcissist to change.  In fact, attempts to “help” the Narcissist and draw attention to their dysfunctional behaviors often make the Narcissist worse because it contradicts the cravings of their ego.

It also profoundly disorients the Empath, who is often destroyed by the relationship.  However, it’s at this point that the unaware Empath experiences a soul crisis and comes to realize what they are.  Though the experience with the Narcissist is painful and overwhelming, the Empath usually learns their soul lessons and undergoes an awakening, whereas the Narcissist remains the same.

Written by Kim Saeed

This article was originally published in her website letmereach.com
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Resources:
Broederlow, C. (2013, October 24). 30 traits of an Empath (How to know if you’re an Empath). Retrieved April 1, 2014, fromhttp://themindunleashed.org/2013/10/30-traits-of-empath.html
 Happe, M. (2011, August 12). The Relationship between Narcissism and Codependency. Retrieved April 3, 2014, fromhttps://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-relationship-between-narcissism-and-codependency/
Lemieux, M. (2013, November 1). Spiritual Warrior Journals (Blog): 50 Traits of being an Empath (Vulnerabilities) – Part II:. Retrieved April 7, 2014, fromhttp://myspiritualjournals.blogspot.com/2013/11/50-traits-of-being-empath-part-II.html
 
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Kim Saeed is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of Let Me Reach, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse. She is the author of two Kindle bestsellers, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss! and 10 Essential Survivor Secrets to Liberate Yourself from Narcissistic Abuse. She is also writing an upcoming book, The Way of the Warrior, for Balboa Press, a division of Hay House. ⁣⁣In addition to her own site, Kim also blogs for Psych Central. Her writing has also been featured on Selfgrowth.com, Thought Catalog, The Mind's Journal, MOGUL, and EverythingEHR. She has been a guest expert on several radio shows including Mental Health News Radio, The Overwhelmed Brain, The Inner Revolution, Write of Your Life, and Codependency No More. ⁣⁣In 2016, Kim founded The New Life Academy, which is an online school dedicated to helping survivors of narcissistic abuse to restore and redesign their lives. Kim holds a Bachelor of Arts in Education and has a multidisciplinary background in teaching, organizational development, HR training, and research. Her blog, Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, has reached 195 countries. Her work has been shared in non-profit women's shelters and has been lauded by therapists and mental health experts. You can find Kim at letmereach.com
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