6. Leave if you need to
Just because your father is a narcissist, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to tolerate their abuse. Once you have spoken to your therapist, you can decide whether you should cut all ties with your dad to protect yourself. This can be especially important if your father abuses you physically. So do not hesitate to leave if you feel unsafe around them. Mark Banschick, M.D. suggests “Cut ties if it is too toxic or dangerous. Some narcissistic parents have violent or abusive tendencies. It goes along with their self-righteousness. You are now an adult. Take care and take caution.”
Focus on the positive
Growing up with a narcissistic father who is manipulative, abusive and unavailable can be undoubtedly difficult for any child. However, not all adults in your family are toxic. Whether it’s your mother, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, teachers or coaches, there are good people around you who love, appreciate and admire you. So instead of focusing on all the toxicity around you that comes from your dad, appreciate all the love you receive from others. But most of all you need to realize the love and value you have for yourself.
You don’t need to be more. You don’t need to be perfect. You can be flawed and still deserve to be loved. You can be imperfect and still deserve to be happy. Your thoughts and emotions matter. And don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.