And his head was spinning because he couldn’t find my problem and then pretend to be the solution, because I was already the solution to myself.
I want you to think about that because when we have problems and we’re not the solution to ourselves somebody will present as the solution and then we will want to be with them. That’s the danger.
In a dating situation, your position needs to be, I know my truth and values, I’m going to find out who you are. I’m going to ask you questions because I know what I need and want in my life to have a healthy relationship.
Take your time. If you start a relationship, have boundaries, retain your interests, retain yourself. So, that means you don’t drop everything to go on a date with somebody on Thursday night if you have other plans, or if you don’t want to.
Retain your life, have boundaries, say no. And take your time platonically to get to know somebody, to meet their family, to see if their actions match their words, to see if they have integrity in their life. To get to know what type of human beings they are.
If you understand what I’m saying, if this is making sense to you, I would love you to pause this video and write in the comments below, “If I honor me, no one can dishonor me.” It’s so true.
I hope that today has helped you understand how narcissists groom you and how important it is to be powerfully in your own body honoring yourself.
So how do you do that? You do that by healing yourself, working on yourself and being yourself.
I promise you, then you will keep yourself healthy and safe no matter what somebody else is or isn’t doing.
To help you understand the level of narcissist that you may be dealing with, I really want to help you out, and all it requires is for you to take a couple of minutes to do this really straightforward quiz.
Then the results are going to be delivered straight to your inbox, as well as my free seven day series to help you understand powerfully how you can get up and out of relationship abuse no matter what type of narcissist you’re dealing with, or who they are in your life. Doesn’t have to be an intimate relationship, it can be any narcissist.
You can start this quiz by clicking the link that appears at the top right of this video. So, I really hope that this has helped.
Written By Melanie Tonia Evans Originally Appeared In Melanie Tonia Evans
When a narcissist grooms you for love, all he is trying to do is know you inside out and look for your weak spots, so that when the time comes they will be able to use those against you. The more you open up about yourself, your emotions, and vulnerabilities, the more ammunition you are giving them to hurt you. So the next time, a narcissist grooms you for love, remember these pointers and be prepared to not fall into their trap.