What About an Intervention?
When a loved one is not receptive to the idea of getting treatment for an alcohol problem, don’t give up. Consider enlisting the help of a professional interventionist to help the family persuade them to accept help. Intervention services can take the burden off the family by helping them create a plan.
Prior to the intervention itself, the family members will meet with the interventionist to plan the session and rehearse. The interventionist will prepare the family for the different outcomes that may happen, and ask them if they are willing to stand firm to their boundaries if the parent declines help.
Family members will be asked to write a letter to the loved one that describes how their alcoholism have adversely affected them. A date and time will be decided for the meeting. At the intervention the family members read their letters to the parent and the interventionist will attempt to guide the parent toward accepting the offer of treatment. Again, he may refuse at this juncture, but you have planted the seed. Hopefully, though, he will accept the offer to get some help.
Supporting Your Dad in Recovery
The family can be an important source of support for an alcoholic parent. When all family members unite with a common goal of wanting to provide a supportive environment, great things can happen. Consider these ways the family can support your dad in recovery:
1. Participate in family counseling. This helps family members express their feelings in a clinical setting where the therapist can guide the conversation toward positive outcomes. New communication skills and conflict resolution techniques can help the family move forward.
2. Remove all substances. Getting rid of all alcohol and other intoxicants includes items you wouldn’t usually think of, such as vanilla extract, hand sanitizer, or over the counter medications.
3. Establish healthy boundaries. Setting limits and clearly stating consequences is essential for the family as well as the recovering alcoholic. It may be difficult at first to set firm boundaries, but this will actually help the person in recovery resist falling back into former behaviors and risking relapse.
When your loved one is ready to commit to recovery, having a united family support plan will help all members of the family overcome the effects of this devastating disease.