If this is you and you were raised by narcissistic parents, learning how to cope is a must and part of your own recovery.
Confronting the narcissist does no good. You have to release yourself from your confusion and see the envy for what it is. To do this, you must recognize your own goodness and strength.
Don’t be spiteful or revengeful as that destroys you. The envy that is thrown your way does not belong to you. It is a part of the parent’s disorder.
“Envy comes from people’s ignorance of, or lack of belief in, their own gifts.” – Jean Vanier
You don’t have to take it on.Your recovery process allows you to individuate so that you are no longer defined by anyone but yourself.
Using self-compassion, self-understanding, and working your recovery is worth the time and energy. Creating your own exciting and significant life is gratifying and the more you tune into the woman you were meant to be, the better it feels!
Written by Karyl McBride Ph.D Karyl McBride, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. Originally appeared on PsychologyToday
- Dr. Karyl McBride’s new book: Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist, and Heal Your Family: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/divorcing-narcissist-book/
- Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/about-will-i-ever-be-good-enough/