Why Are Millennials So Anxious And Unhappy?

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If you know yourself well (and most of us begin to understand ourselves better as we get older), it will be easier for you to know when it’s right to go back and try something else. Talking to your friends or family about what you want, or finding a good therapist with whom you can discuss these issues, can be an essential source of this kind of self-knowledge.

In addition, it’s important to remember to be kind to yourself when you’re going through a stressful time. Not everyone finds the right life partner, creates an artistic masterpiece or finds a successful company before the age of 30. If you’re hard on yourself in this way—expecting too much of yourself and feeling stuck—try to exercise more self-compassion.

Related: 7 Stress Personality Types: Is Your Personality Stressing You Out?

Don’t expect perfection. You’re allowed to make mistakes. Take careful note of the aspects of your choices that you can control, as well as those you can’t—and don’t blame yourself for not getting everything absolutely right. Rather, when you do make a decision, try to accept and gain comfort with the act of stepping purposefully into the unknown, even as you acknowledge that uncertainty is a part of living.

Instead of berating yourself about making the “right decision” every time, just try to make the decision as well as you possibly can, using all of the information and resources available—and then, afterward, live with the outcome as naturally as possible, knowing that your deciding process was a good one.

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Written By Loren Soeiro
Originally Published In Psychology Today
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