Minor affirmations like “the world is getting worse every day”, “my husband will never change his ways”, “I will never get a good job”, “I will never be successful like my friends, etc. can cause a lot of damage.
The best way to not let hopelessness take over you all the time is by acknowledging the fact that along with the bad, there are a lot of good things that life has to offer too. Fixating on just the negative things is never going to serve you well. Can you imagine how happy and peaceful you will feel, once you start considering the good things about the one life that you have?
5. Lack of gratitude.
Gratitude is something that is always overlooked, and that is why people always complain about how they are never happy. Being grateful for the big things, as well as the small things shifts your perspective entirely. When you start practicing gratitude, you will see for yourself, how happy and content you feel most of the time. Acknowledging the good things, instead of only obsessing about the bad, will change your life for good.
Imagine, you are standing in a line waiting to bill your groceries, and instead of feeling impatient for waiting too long, you think about how lucky you are that you can afford to put food on your table, whereas there are people who don’t even get to eat for days. Now think about all that appreciation, and satisfaction you feel within yourself. That is the power of gratitude, and the more you invest in it, the better your life will be.
6. Having extremely high standards when it comes to others.
It is good to know your own worth, and have high standards. But it’s not really a good thing to hold everyone to a high standard, whilst failing to apply the same to yourself. If you continue to set impossible standards for people, you will constantly end up feeling disappointed.
Sometimes, you tend to criticize other people for their flaws, all the while not even realizing that you have the same flaws. The thing is when you see the same shortcomings you have in yourself in other people, it ends up making you feel uncomfortable, and you end up projecting your insecurities on them.
Instead of giving in to this frustration every time something goes south, take a deep breath, and try to understand what the problem actually is. Are you only focusing on their mistakes, but never yours? Are you always looking for problems, where there aren’t any? Getting the answers to these questions can help you get rid of this problematic mental habit with time.
7. Constant feelings of helplessness.
Constant feelings of helplessness are another one of the many mental habits that end up making you feel bitter in your life. Feeling helpless all the time, and thinking that you have absolutely no control whatsoever on your life, are sure shot ways of running headfirst into the world of bitterness. Furthermore, feelings of helplessness can also contribute to depression.
You might have been in situations in the past where things were out of your control (such as neglect, and abuse), but now that you have come out of those situations, and taken your power back, there is no point in dwelling on them. Yes, you were helpless once upon a time, but now you are not, and the more you focus on that, the stronger and confident you will feel.
Mental habits that cause bitterness might take some time to get over and move on for good, but you have to start from somewhere, don’t you?
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