You’re being emotional (if said with no emotion) = “I need help understanding how you feel in terms of what you think, so I can think like that too and maybe, if it’ safe, I’ll understand how you feel too.”
Did you cum? = “I want to please you sexually and I’m scared I may not be performing right. Please show me how to drive you wild in a way you’ll brag to your friends that you’re dating/married to a sexual love god!”
Are you wearing that? = “I want to compliment you and curious to know if THIS outfit is your final selection so I can dress accordingly. Or…are you going to try on five more outfits and if so, I’ll just hang here on the couch a little longer and watch sports/news/Simpsons re-runs until you get really fired up at me.”
(Call/Text) What are you doing? = “I’m really curious about you right now and was just thinking about you so I’m calling/texting to help me get a visual of what it would be like to be with you in this moment.”
(In person) What are you doing? = “As a doer, I need help translating the actions I see into your intended meaning.”
What are you wearing? = (this is a rare question. I wouldn’t worry about this unless you’re actually dating a fashionable man (which is like 1 percent of 1 percent of all men…ever)
What do you want to do? = “I’ve already thought of a few ideas, actually may even have a full evening planned, but I’m nervous you may not approve and so I’m checking in with you for a pre-approval. Sorry for my lack of confidence.”
Can we stay in tonight? = “I feel quiet and want to spend time with just you. Please let this one night of laziness be okay.”
I don’t like your friend(s)/family = (either #1 or #2 and sometimes both)
“I feel your friends don’t treat you as as good as you deserve and it makes me defensive/protective of you.”
“I feel your friends may not like me and are talking you out of seeing (being with) me.”
There it is. The simple things men say and yes, drives women bat-shit crazy! Complex creatures saying simple things, not sharing their feelings and hiding behind heady questions of nothingness causing the women to become interpreters, mind readers and investigators with ninja-like cross examination of verbal judo. It’s exhausting!
Men aren’t the bad asses that society (movies, expectations, business, ect) portray them to be. They’re creatures of primal programming desiring all the same needs as women and simply go about it differently, both in language and thought patterns. We bleed, often profusely, exhausted with the concealment for thinking of us as weak if we just…feel.
Get a man to feel, and you’ll experience the strength of powerful masculinity you never thought possible. What an adventure we are.
Gasp! I know, I know…we don’t mean to come off as Neanderthal knuckle-draggers, but hey, we love and adore you so be patient and if it gets ugly, just contact me, I’ll walk you through it.