You should complement each other, you should want to freely be with each other and not only because of mutual interest. If your relationship is based only on mutual interest you will drain each other’s energy. There will be lots of fear in the relationship and no love and freedom.
If you freely come together and you can find rest and happiness together and you can be yourself because you feel accepted just the way you are, then you are in a strong relationship. Your partner can truly accept you the way you are, dare to be who you are.
Clean Up Or Take Care Of Your Past
It really happens that you find a healthy relationship when you are full of sorrow and past relationship issues. Throw it all overboard, handle what still bothers you, and block your energy.
All unresolved issues should be expressed. Get rid of ex-partners’ things like rings and clothes etc, and make room for the new. Put away old nostalgic photos of your ex. Try to read books that can help you resolve your fears.
You are not your past anymore, you are no longer a victim, you are not pathetic. You are new and fresh, free yourself of whatever is giving you negative energy. Take what serves you in a positive way with you and let go of the negative.
Let go of people who give you an uneasy feeling. Change your home around until it feels good for you. Change what doesn’t feel good in your workplace like conflicts and if they can’t be changed let them go.
Break Through Your Ego And Go Towards Your Feelings (or higher self)
Learn to recognize your feelings and trust your intuition.
Do you live in your ego or your feelings?
Do you let others or society determine your path?
Do you stand up for yourself?
Do you let yourself be led by fears or do you have enough trust in yourself?
Are you hoping to be in a relationship to be free of loneliness? Or do you want to find someone to walk your path in life with? Do you want someone who can let you live in the here and now, someone who will help you see your imperfections and blind spots?
Are you materialistic? Can you let go of things? Can you stand up for yourself, dreams and ideals?
Do you dare to be unique? Do you dare to take responsibility for your own deeds and words?
Can you stop blaming someone else for what has happened to you? Can you be yourself without fear?
Don’t be afraid anymore of the insecurities, loneliness, or jealousy of others. It’s ok, they go through the same process, talk about it. Ask your new partner if they are to walk with you through the journey of life.
(Leda the Zwaan and her golden budhha)
Make Your House Feng Shui
According to old Chinese placement art, you can literally make a place for a partner. You can let that be seen in the reflection of your living space.
Do you have a single bed? It seems you unconsciously block a lover or partner that can sleep by you, you literally don’t have room for someone else. Try to have a bigger bed, sofa, etc. Try to make your home look welcome for a second person.
You can place a symbol or roses for your new partner like a new pillow next to yours, 2 candle sticks, 2 lamps left and right next to your bed.
Think about what symbols you would like to use.