Trust is one of the most important gifts you can give a man. When you trust him, you allow him to demonstrate his integrity.
When you trust him, you are choosing to no longer to see him through your own insecurities.
Rather, you are choosing to allow him to create himself as the best and highest version of himself. You are holding that vision for him to step into and that in turn fuels his desire to be his best.
When you trust him, you’re more OK with him pulling away a bit to individuate, to take a breath and some time for himself, knowing that he’ll come back more balanced, refueled. and ready to connect. That’s how you make a man miss you and leave him coming back for more.
Step 3: Bring in Emotions and Play
For most men, emotional depths are unexplored territory. They allow themselves to feel the socially acceptable, “masculine” emotions of pride, anger, lust, etc., but other feelings that might be considered “feminine” are largely off-limits. They remain buried deep down in, quite literally, no-man’s land.
Women, on the other hand, are emotional superstars, blessed with way more emotional flexibility than their masculine counterparts. In our culture, it’s acceptable for women to feel the full gamut of emotions, and to express them openly. Use this to your advantage.
As a woman, you can invite your man to join you in a rich world of experience and feelings that he may have disowned ever since childhood. Part of him is craving that deep dive into this long lost emotional territory.
A woman who is not afraid to express herself, to share her vulnerabilities, to play and flirt and tease, to joke around, to tell him what she thinks, to cry or be afraid, is wildly attractive.
This kind of emotional expression invites the man to be present, to slow down, to stop being so future-oriented, to stop thinking about goals or making money. It’s an invite to step out of the mold society has designated for him, and to take a break and smell the proverbial roses.
He gets to vicariously live and feel through her, and she actually gets him to open up and feel things that he may not have allowed himself to feel for a long time. There is a priceless value in that.
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Play and the act of being comfortably embodied is something men are very cut off from. Women, on the whole, tend to be more embodied, more comfortable in their own sensuality. Introducing play and sensuality is another surefire way to get him into the present.
Most importantly, it gets him out of his head and into his heart. If you want to make a man miss you, the heart is exactly where you want to be.
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Clayton Olson is an International Relationship Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, and Facilitator. He delivers private virtual coaching sessions and leads online group workshops. Register for his free webinar that reveals the 3 Keys to Attracting and Keeping a High-Quality Man or grab his free guide 5 Secrets To Create An Extraordinary Relationship.