Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder

 May 02, 2019

Loving Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder

6. Mood swings (e.g. depressed, irritable, or anxious) mood, not lasting more than a few days.

7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.

8. Frequent, intense, inappropriate temper or anger.

9. Transient, stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms.


Causes and Treatment

The cause of BPD is not clearly known, but often there has been neglect, abandonment, or abuse in childhood and possibly genetic factors.

People who have a first-degree relative with BPD are five times more likely to develop BPD themselves. (For more read here.)

Research has shown brain changes in the ability to regulate emotions. For more, read here and here.

Unlike narcissists who often avoid therapy, borderlines usually welcome it; however, before recent treatment innovations, its effectiveness had been questioned, which led to stigmatization.

Today, BPD is no longer a life sentence.

Studies have shown that some people recover on their own, some improve with weekly therapy, and some require hospitalization.

Long-term treatment is required for maximum results, with symptom relief increasingly improving.

10-year study showed substantial remission after ten years. Use of medication and DBT, CBT, schema therapy and some other modalities have proven helpful.

Most individuals with BPD have another co-occurring diagnosis, such as addiction and/or depression.

Acute symptoms diminish more readily than temperamental ones, such as anger, loneliness, and emptiness and abandonment/dependency issues.

Borderlines need structure, and a combination of knowing that they’re cared about plus boundaries that are communicated calmly and firmly.

Learn to be assertive, and set boundaries.

Get How to Speak Your Mind- Become Assertive and Set Limits (and webinar: Be Assertive) For partners, it’s also important to seek therapy in order to raise your self-esteem.

Get How to Raise Your Self-Esteem. See my blog on “How to Spot Manipulation” and my books and e-workbooks for helpful exercises.

©Darlene Lancer, LMFT 2013


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Written by Darlene Lancer

Originally appeared in Whatiscodependency.com

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