Love Is A Choice, Not An Uncontrollable Feeling  

Love Is A Choice, Not An Uncontrollable Feeling  

More often than not, real love has its sleeves rolled up, dirt and grime smeared on its arms, and sweat dripping down its forehead.

 

Love is so much more than some random, euphoric feeling. And real love isn’t always fluffy, cute, and cuddly.

More often than not, real love has its sleeves rolled up, dirt and grime smeared on its arms, and sweat dripping down its forehead. Real love asks us to do hard things—to forgive one another, to support each other’s dreams, to comfort in times of grief, or to care for the family. Real love isn’t easy—and it’s nothing like the wedding day—but it’s far more meaningful and wonderful.

I recently came across this wonderful quote: “No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.”

 

Whenever my wife and I run into a problem in our marriage we do our best to choose love. While we’re certainly not perfect, the love we share today is more real and more wonderful than anything we had ever anticipated.

 

So, whatever spontaneous storm may come our way I plan on loving my wife.

If you truly love someone (and they truly love you), commit to that love and plan on it being hard work.

But also plan on it being the most rewarding work of your life.


Written by Seth Adam Smith
Originally appeared in The Goodmen Project

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Love Is A Choice, Not An Uncontrollable Feeling  
Love Is A Choice, Not An Uncontrollable Feeling
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