A woman with a pretty face, dressed in red, white and blue, representing a culture of truth that Love doesn’t cheat on you! I’m traveling back and forth trying to embrace the explorationof a love affair overseas, and in doing so, I stumbled upon another culture of truth that Dominican men will love you, but they will cheat on you! (*My source remains anonymous) I know I should not generalize or stereotype all Dominican men into this stigma, but I’m solely referring to mine.
Three years of long distance dating, we are both trying to figure out how we can be together in one country. I kept wanting to give up on him, because the fight was too long suffering. It was hard to trust what each other was doing on a day-to-day basis and the attempt to stay in touch daily was a challenge in itself. Not to mention the cultural morals and beliefs and the language barriers. I don’t know why I ever believed it could work, he made me believe it could work with his persistent behaviors and love encountered endeavors. Frantically sorting through visitors’visas, fiancé visas, and spousal visas… which one were we to choose? Walking away from him, I had nothing to lose, but love.All the empath want is love.
He led me to believe he loved me and that he wanted us to be together, but what he failed to tell me is that cheating is normal. I don’t know if I believe if he thinks cheating is normal. Who, with any morals can believe anything like that? A narcissist? Who would accept anything like that? Did he really expect me to be that wife? There’s a disconnect of communication about this particular issue, among many other issues, but I know that in my country, cheating is not acceptable. I wanted to make that very clear to him. I did not want a cheating husband.
Being the woman that I am, I had to acknowledge the fact that this will not be my new normal. I decided to sabotage that!
I went through his cellular phone and I discovered many conversations he had with other women. I confronted him and I told him that I could not marry him. He went on to say they were just friends, but I had a hard time believing him. I took the initiative to contact a few of his women. I knew he wouldn’t like that! They all went back and told him I did that! He thought it was a crime! Yet in fact, the idea that he thought I was going to marry him knowing all the facts, and tried to turn the blame on me, what a narcissistic act!I’m very proud of myself for standing up for what I believe in. I quickly decided that I was not settling for that.
My trip to Punta Cana was good, although we did not get married. The empath and the narcissist both learned that theyhave different cultural morals and values. They tried to make it work, but it’s not. The narcissist has a strong personality, but a lack of understanding for the empath’s culture. The empath understands the narcissist, but the empath is not willing to sacrifice nothing for what the empath believes in and what the empath believes they should have or deserve. The empath chooses to release the narcissist from their soul and her lover became the Narcissist Unknown.
Although both countries represent the red, white and blue, we can’t always assume that both cultures will embrace the fact that love doesn’t cheat on you. Peaceful goodbye Punta Cana!