9. Remain calm
Dealing with kids can be challenging and making sure that they are listening to you can really make most parents feel frustrated to say the least. However, the more aggressive behavior you exhibit and the more you command them, the more defiant your children will be. Moreover, it can also affect your connection and relationship with them in the long run. The first thing you need to realize is that your kids may not do everything exactly the way you want them to. Instead of getting frustrated and shouting at them, stay calm even things become chaotic. By remaining calm you will set a great example for your kids. Just remember to breathe deeply and help them do what you need them to. Instead of playing the blame game, focus more on the solution.
Be a parent, not a dictator
No one likes to be bossed around. The best way to make sure your kids listen to you is to be encouraging, warm, empathic and positive. Focus more on building a strong emotional connection with them instead of making them dance to your tunes. When they feel loved and heard, they will hear you too. Using positive reinforcement and positive statements will encourage them to oblige instead of being defiant. Once you understand the basics of parent-child communication and strengthen your relationship, they will be listening to you willingly and will want to please you.