Mind sneakers tap into a fear energy and you land up sending your perfect self along. Although she does an amazing job, something gets left behind and she can’t always deliver her true authentic value.
Do things your way – have the courage to bring your own unique spin and ideas. There are no absolutes, anything and everything is up for grabs. There is no ‘should be’ way of expressing who you are – just trust yourself.
What am I still believing?
“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers” – Thich Nhat Hanh
When you find yourself feeling stuck, frustrated, and anxious or in overwhelm –look deeper into this. Explore it by asking yourself ‘What am I still believing?’
In the beginning of lockdown (which would make no sense trying to explain it to you in this letter), I had an expectation that I would have more time available to myself but quite quickly I realised I had less time and the amount I could do in a day was dramatically reduced too. After 13 weeks of resisting the situation with daily phrases like ‘I should be doing X or this is not how it should be’, I knew it was time for some serious introspection. We are as A-type as it gets, a 1 on the Enneagram and it was time to accept that this situation was way beyond my control.
I sat down and meditated on the life-changing questions ‘What am I still believing?’ It turns out, I was measuring my self-worth on my work achievements and outputs only. This unique period of time required me to shift my priorities and accept I have a limited number of hours available to me. The bulk of my time had shifted into managing my kids schooling so naturally I could accomplish less than before.
My beliefs had to shift in order for me to appreciate that this role is equally powerful and I am still adding tremendous value. I didn’t stop my work commitments but the volume had been affected.
I was believing something that didn’t serve me and unless I altered the belief, I would hold myself hostage to an unrealistic outcome. I had to re-evaluate what value means and ask myself some serious questions:
- Who do I want to be during lockdown?
- How do I want to show up to my family?
- How do I want them to remember this time?
Then I gave myself permission to shift my beliefs and embrace my new way of being and how service, contribution and worth can be derived outside of work too. It was also accepting that my self-worth couldn’t be based on an external locus of control like finance or workshops or talks. I had to get into a space and it sounds so clichéd but there’s a reason for every cliché – it holds deep truth.
This was moving into a space of unconditional self-acceptance and being enough. Now. Today – with or without the work achievements. There are going to be times where you succeed and times you feel like a complete failure, accept yourself unconditionally irrespective of the outcome and keep appreciating the lessons that it brings.
Thich Nhat Hanh speaks about the value of ‘inaction’ in his beautiful book, The Art of Living. He says how sometimes we perceive people as not doing anything because they appear inactive. Yet the power and influence that person holds can be so powerful.