8. I have become a lot wiser
“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.” – Robert Gary Lee
Once you’ve been at the worst place of your life, once you’ve been broken, once you’ve lifted yourself up, you don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. You don’t overthink, you don’t stress or feel anxiety nor do you worry excessively about all the things that could go wrong. You learn to look at the bigger picture and realize you will be able to sort this out too. Pain helps you look at life differently and understand it’s true essence.
9. I am a lot more positive now
Depression can suck all the positivity out of you. I don’t think I can explain what being suicidal feels like and I am not even going to try, but I can assure you it is the darkest place one can ever be in. You can see no amount of light shining your way. And that darkness can consume you completely. Negative thoughts can affect your mental, emotional and physical health so much that it feels death is a better alternative. No person should ever feel that way. And if you are going through something like this, please don’t lose hope. Seek help. Talk to someone. But once you step into that pain and take all the hits that come your way, somehow you are cleansed of all the negativity. It just washes off of you. Once you reach the light, all that remains is positivity that gives you a new strength to move ahead.
Life will always be hard, for everyone. But now I focus more on the silver lining than the dark clouds. I am more focused on how I can use a situation to my advantage instead of thinking about why it’s happening to me. It completely transforms the way you think and feel. What’s the worst that can happen? Well, I’ve been there, survived that. So bring it on.
10. I became more spiritual
When certain things happen that challenge your beliefs and yourself, that breaks you as a human being, that makes you wonder what you have done to deserve such pain, you start seeking answers beyond yourself. You start to realize that God or the universe has a plan and it operates to help you reach the destination you were always supposed to reach. Although you may not be able to see where you are going right now, I can guarantee you will end up in a much better place than you think. Going through what I would call an unfortunate life, now I understand why I had to go through what I did. It makes you have more faith in God. It makes you trust the universe a lot more. And you start paying attention to the signs universe sends you.
Life lessons to learn from pain
“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me…You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.” – Walt Disney
Going through the dark tunnel of pain and finding the light of strength and hope on the other side might be easier said than done. But it’s doable. I am living proof of that. If you are also going through that darkness or want to step into it and face your pain, then let me share what I have learned from facing my anxiety, depression, and pain. It just might help you take that step.
- Thoughts are not real. It has the power to become real but only if you allow it. Don’t give power to negative thoughts.
- It’s okay to feel anxious, depressed, frustrated and angry. It’s okay to be insecure and jealous. It’s okay to feel every emotion that you feel. But it’s not okay to hold on to those feelings. Let the feelings come, acknowledge them without judgment and let them pass naturally.
- If you love someone, tell them how you feel. Spend time with people who matter to you. Don’t isolate yourself.
- Facing problems, challenges and obstacles will only make you more confident, resilient and patient. It may break you initially but it will mold you into something better.
- Have faith in yourself. You’re better than you believe you are.
- Be comfortable with being uncomfortable in life. You won’t always get what you want. Life gives us what we need, not what we want. And that’s a fact.
- Overcoming your fear of pain will make you unbreakable. You’ll see what I mean when you get there.
- Going through pain will make you aware of your inner complicated self and realize you are an emotional and spiritual being capable of greatness.
- Experiencing pain will make you humble and empathetic towards others. It makes you a better person.
- Not everyone will love you. No matter how hard you try or how much you love them, you will not get the love you want. Somethings are just not meant to be.
- It’s okay to cry. It helps you heal.
- Don’t ignore sleep. Don’t stay up overthinking. Give your mind and body the rest it needs.
- Don’t be afraid to love. Open your heart to love. Receive and share as much love as possible without getting attached.
- Meditation can be a great place to start to face your fears. Just sit down and focus on your breathing for 10 minutes. Thank me later.
- Heal yourself at every opportunity by spending time with people you love, eating good food, being in nature, loving your pets, listening to music and dancing and anything that makes you happy.
- Accepting rejection is hard but it is crucial that you do and respect the other person’s decision. If someone wants to leave, let them go.
- Social media can make you more depressed if you are going through a bad phase.
- Happiness is overrated. You don’t need to pursue happiness. The only two things that actually matter are self-love and peace.
- Forgiveness is about you winning over hatred and bitterness. It’s not about the other person. It’s about setting yourself free from negativity.
- Depression can be the worst thing you can ever experience in life. It will break you beyond what you can imagine. But you can get through it. Seek professional help and talk openly to at least one person you trust.
- Love yourself. Nothing else matters. Let me say that again…LOVE YOURSELF. Love your flaws and awesomeness. Practice self-love and learn to forgive yourself. Accept yourself as you are. Don’t change yourself for anyone.
- Everything will sort itself out. You just need to step up and be brave.
Appreciate the beauty of pain
“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” -Kenji Miyazawa