2. I have become mentally strong
”You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.” – Bob Marley
Heartbreak feels worse than death. But coping with betrayal and a failed relationship has made me a lot more resilient. Picking myself up and pushing through the pain when there was no one else by my side was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And in that process, I became so mentally tough and independent that I am not afraid to love anymore. My perspective on love and life has matured and I have found my inner strength only after I was stretched beyond my limits. Now I don’t need anyone to be with me to be happy. I am happy just by myself.
3. I take my own decisions
When you are afraid of emotional pain, you are afraid of losing people, afraid of being disliked. So you agree with the people you love most of the time. You become a pushover and let people decide for you. Once you’ve gone through pain, you learn to stand up for yourself and take your decisions. And guess what, people start respecting you more for it.
4. I have learned to take care of myself first
When you try to avoid emotional pain and heartbreak, you eventually start avoiding things that you want to do, things that are good for your emotional and mental health. You care more about making others happy and your own happiness and pleasure takes a back seat. The fear of pain made me insecure and desperate. I focused more on keeping the people I loved happy than doing what I needed to do for my own long term happiness. Going through heartbreak and the pain that ensued has taught me to always prioritise my needs first and do what needs to be done without making any compromises. This has not only made me a happier person but has also led to healthier relationships.
5. I love more deeply now
“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa
It’s easy to become guarded and close your heart once you’ve had your heartbroken. But all that pain has made me a more loving person. Just because something hasn’t worked out does not mean I will refrain myself from feeling again. Yes, it may be harder to love someone now as I will be more cautious and take longer to fall in love. But when I do fall in love, I will give that special person all the love in my heart and receive what they have to offer without expecting anything. Why? Because now I love myself a lot more than I used to and that gives me the strength to love unconditionally.
6. I have become more compassionate
Pain makes you more empathetic and compassionate. When you’ve hit your rock bottom, you start doing things that you never would’ve done otherwise. This makes you more open to what other people are going through. Once you’ve been through pain, you don’t want others to suffer what you have. You become a kinder version of yourself who empathizes with others without judging their decisions or actions. You don’t show sympathy or pity. Instead, you understand, accept and forgive as you are now more open-minded.
7. I feel more inspired
“Failure gave me strength. Pain was my motivation.” – Michael Jordan
Pain can be the greatest inspiration to bring about a drastic change in yourself and your life. Breaking up with my girlfriend was the hardest thing I had to do…ever. I was completely dependent on her and was a needy boyfriend. Letting her go was not only difficult, but I tried to avoid it for the longest time in the hope of making things better. But once I let her go, it inspired me to work on myself. It made me take a cold hard look at what I had become and motivated me to become the awesome person I once was. Although it took some time, I started focusing on myself and my projects. I did some of my most creative work and to be honest it made me a lot better at expressing myself through my work. Pain is the catalyst that creates masterpieces.