Valuable Lessons From Pain: 10 Ways My Pain Helped Me Grow

Valuable Lessons From Pain

The courage and act of dealing with pain is the most beautiful part about it. It heals you from inside.

Just look at the alternative: a lifetime of being scared of emotional pain and trying your best to run from it, pushing people away, isolating yourself, and ending up alone…the very thing you were afraid of being. 

Is that what you want? The answer is a definite NO!

This is why you need to have the courage to step into the darkness and move on to the glorious light that exists on the other side. That’s where you heal. That’s where you find unconditional love. That’s where you find peace and happiness. That is what defines you.

Valuable Lessons From Pain: 10 Ways My Pain Helped Me Grow
Valuable Lessons From Pain: 10 Ways My Pain Helped Me Grow

10 ways my pain helped me grow

“God gave us pain to remind us we are alive, so we will learn to value the joys and beauty of the world.” – Tom Corr

Being in pain means you’re alive. Being in pain means you are able to love. Here’s why I love pain so much.

1. Pain allowed me to grow and evolve.

“Pain makes me grow. Growing is what I want. Therefore, for me pain is pleasure.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger

Everything happens for a reason. You may not see it right now but in time you will see the bigger picture. You will realize exactly why you had to go through all that pain. Everything is designed to help you reach exactly where you need to be. Going through pain, falling down and breaking apart, and then rebuilding myself has made me the person I am today. And I am proud of who I have become.

Pain forces you to grow and improve yourself. It makes you ask the right questions and then find the answers that will eventually lead to complete self-development. Pain IS gain. Without pain, I would have never had the opportunity or the motivation to get out of my shell and take charge of my own life and happiness.

2. I have become mentally strong.

Heartbreak feels worse than death. But coping with betrayal and a failed relationship has made me a lot more resilient. Picking myself up and pushing through the pain when there was no one else by my side was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And in that process, I became so mentally tough and independent that I am not afraid to love anymore.

My perspective on love and life has matured and I have found my inner strength only after I was stretched beyond my limits. Now I don’t need anyone to be with me to be happy. I am happy just by myself. 

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3. I take my own decisions.

When you are afraid of emotional pain, you are afraid of losing people, afraid of being disliked. So you agree with the people you love most of the time. You become a pushover and let people decide for you.

Once you’ve gone through pain, you learn to stand up for yourself and take your decisions. And guess what, people start respecting you more for it.

4. I have learned to take care of myself first.

When you try to avoid emotional pain and heartbreak, you eventually start avoiding things that you want to do, things that are good for your emotional and mental health. You care more about making others happy and your own happiness and pleasure takes a back seat. The fear of pain made me insecure and desperate. I focused more on keeping the people I loved happy than doing what I needed to do for my own long term happiness.

Going through heartbreak and the pain that ensued has taught me to always prioritize my needs first and do what needs to be done without making any compromises. This has not only made me a happier person but has also led to healthier relationships.

5. I love more deeply now.

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa

It’s easy to become guarded and close your heart once you’ve had your heartbroken. But all that pain has made me a more loving person. Just because something hasn’t worked out does not mean I will refrain myself from feeling again. Yes, it may be harder to love someone now as I will be more cautious and take longer to fall in love.

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Theo Harrison

Hey there! I am just someone trying to find my way through life. I am a reader, writer, traveler, fighter, philosopher, artist and all around nice guy. I am outdoor person but heavily into technology, science, psychology, spiritualism, Buddhism, martial arts and horror films. I believe in positive action more than positive thinking.View Author posts