For me, I had been in fear of pain for so long that it came to a point that I was actually scared of being happy instead of experiencing pain. Being happy meant something worse was about to happen. I was more comfortable with pain. Pain was the home I grew up in, the pain gave me the warmth I needed, it made me feel wanted. It was the cloud of pain that reigned over my mind and made me feel comfortable in the darkness.
Pain was something I knew.
Not so much.
As they say ‘better the devil you know than the devil you don’t’.
The problem is not with emotional pain or happiness. The problem lies with the fear of pain. That is what leads to suffering long before you’ve even experienced pain. The key to loving pain is unconditional acceptance. It is only when you accept it, you can finally let it out. You can sing or even dance your pain out. You can write about it or paint it. You can talk about it to whoever is close to you (there’s always someone to talk to, even if you’re a loner, trust me I know). You can walk it out or travel it out. No matter what you do to express and release your pain, the moment you release it you will feel empowered. Having gone through the experience will make you stronger, wiser and more courageous.
The courage and act of dealing with pain is the most beautiful part about it. It heals you from inside. When you embrace and express your pain instead of ignoring or fighting it, you can finally make something out of it. You can make something out of yourself. It is only by walking through this darkness you will find the brightest light. You are braver now because you stood right in front of your pain, looked it in the eye and faced it. You are now in the light. You are now healed.
Just look at the alternative: a lifetime of being scared of emotional pain and trying your best to run from it, pushing people away, isolating yourself and ending up alone…the very thing you were afraid of being.
Is that what you want?
The answer is a definite NO!
This is why you need to have the courage to step into the darkness and move on to the glorious light that exists on the other side. That’s where you heal. That’s where you find unconditional love. That’s where you find peace and happiness. That is what defines you.
Why I love pain?
“God gave us pain to remind us we are alive, so we will learn to value the joys and beauty of the world.” – Tom Corr
Being in pain means you’re alive. Being in pain means you are able to love. Here’s why I love pain so much.
1. Pain allowed me to grow and evolve
“Pain makes me grow. Growing is what I want. Therefore, for me pain is pleasure.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger
Everything happens for a reason. You may not see it right now but in time you will see the bigger picture. You will realize exactly why you had to go through all that pain. Everything is designed to help you reach exactly where you need to be. Going through pain, falling down and breaking apart and then rebuilding myself has made me the person I am today. And I am proud of who I have become. Pain forces you to grow and improve yourself. It makes you ask the right questions and then find the answers that will eventually lead to complete self-development. Pain IS gain. Without pain, I would have never had the opportunity or the motivation to get out of my shell and take charge of my own life and happiness.