Valuable Lessons From Pain: 10 Ways My Pain Helped Me Grow

Valuable Lessons From Pain

Everyone has to go through these experiences. Right? But from my perspective, it seemed I was the only one who was being targeted. As if God was deliberately taking time out to play with me. I cried. I screamed. I holed up in my room. I felt alone. I felt a rush of mixed emotions and no one was there with me to tell me everything was going to be okay. I was stuck in a dark foggy pit and no matter how hard I tried I just couldn’t escape. I just couldn’t end this pain.

Maybe it wasn’t a big deal but it felt like the end of the world to me. I became depressed and suicidal. But still, I refused to accept the pain I was feeling inside. So I did the next best thing I could. I faked it. I pretended everything was alright instead of actually dealing with my emotions. My plan was simple: fake it till you make it. But here’s the thing with plans. They fail.

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Valuable Lessons From Pain: 10 Ways My Pain Helped Me Grow

When I stopped escaping pain

Eventually, all the bottled-up emotions that I avoided for so long exploded out and hit me hard in the most unexpected ways. It took me by surprise. And that’s when I realized running away from pain was not the solution. That’s not how things are meant to be. You can’t hide from the pain. You can’t run away from it. The only thing you can do is accept it, feel it, and hopefully find a way to get it out. When you do that you learn, evolve, and grow from your pain.

You can’t hide from the pain. You can’t run away from it. The only thing you can do is accept it, feel it, and hopefully find a way to get it out. When you do that you learn, evolve, and grow from your pain. 

The more you ignore your pain, the more it will haunt you. What you need to do is step up to yourself, dig deep and find the courage inside to face your pain. Truly embrace it. You need to let your pain mold and make you the person you are meant to be. The person you could never even imagine you could be. And when you do that, when you become that person…you finally start loving pain. Because pain makes you better. Period. 

Pain is a side effect of love

The moment I stopped running away from pain is exactly when I became proud of who I was. I became the loving caring person I was always meant to be. Love is painful. It hurts and it hurts bad. There’s no denying that. By refusing to feel pain, I refused to love. I denied myself becoming the person I was inside. And that is what was making me depressed. My misery was not caused due to all the problems and challenges I faced in life. Everyone goes through that. It was caused by my refusal to accept pain. The moment I accepted pain and opened my heart to give and receive love, something magical happened. I felt empowered. I felt liberated. Liberated from all the self-doubts, insecurities, self-deprecating thoughts, and all the negative voices that kept telling me I was not worth it.

As I said before, there are innumerable life lessons to learn from pain and if you can do it right, it can completely transform you as a person.

The fear of pain can destroy you. But pain itself can make you fearless. You can’t fall and disappear into the darkness of fear. It is this fear of not being worthy of love is what makes us lost in this abyss. It makes us afraid of pain. I love pain because it helped me grow. I love pain because it showed me the path to better myself. I chose to evolve through my pain although it hurt like hell to do that. But now I know how to love and it makes me happy even though I know it could lead to more pain. But that’s okay.

If you love someone, you will feel pain. That’s the beauty of it. If you feel pain inside your heart, it means you love fully and unconditionally. And that is the most beautiful thing we can do as human beings. To love someone and not be affected by the outcome…that is a power you can experience only through pain.

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I love pain, not suffering

“Pain is what the world inflicts upon us. Suffering is our emotional reaction when we fail to make the difficult conscious choice to choose joy.” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Accepting pain does not mean you give up and suffer through life. Pain and suffering are not synonymous. Accepting pain makes you take a hard look at the reality of life. It forces you to rise above it and make your life better. Given the right mindset, pain makes you gain a positive outlook at life. But suffering breaks you.

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Theo Harrison

Hey there! I am just someone trying to find my way through life. I am a reader, writer, traveler, fighter, philosopher, artist and all around nice guy. I am outdoor person but heavily into technology, science, psychology, spiritualism, Buddhism, martial arts and horror films. I believe in positive action more than positive thinking.View Author posts