Step #2: Identify: What did you learn?
The key to answering this question is to remember that it’s about responsibility. If your answer sounds even remotely like blame – for example, I learned never to trust So-and-So again! – then I’m afraid you’re off track. The lesson is about you. Not them. You can’t change them, you can only change you. What did you learn about you? Examples might be, I learned that I need to ask questions more succinctly, or, I need to leave ten minutes earlier.
Step #3: Propose a solution: What’s your new plan?
Before you release the mistake and move on, it’s vital to your growth as a human being to identify what you will do differently next time. For those with a heavy conscience, you will only feel at peace when you come up with a new plan.
What does a plan look like? It puts you in charge and identifies what you can do to increase the chances of a positive outcome. Plans that relate to our earlier examples might be something like, I will write my questions down, or, I will leave for work at seven-thirty.
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Applying Life School Lessons
Don’t spend energy on going backwards, assigning blame or looking for why. Give up the futility of pushing rocks uphill. Instead, take your regrets, your mistakes, and your missed opportunities and hold them up to the inner screen of your mind. Ask yourself, what can I learn here? Then apply the three steps: what went wrong, what did I learn and what’s my plan?
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