6. “You don’t know enough for your own good”
If you’re wondering what the corollary for that is, it is : “let me tell you.” This is another usual symptom of a narcissist parent slipping control into their children’s lives.
From telling them how to dress up to dictating what they ought to eat to who they should spend time with, it might seem to a narcissist’s child that they don’t know enough.
This is again something that feeds the power equation and might make the child think that the parent’s knowledge or understanding must not be questioned at all.
Do you notice a theme running through every little misconception (passed off as the word of God of course) above?
Each of them play with the aspect of self-esteem and prevents the child from individuating into an adult of their own choice and making (holds true even for those children who are adults but who continue to be in the throes of old patterns).
If the above ring a bell, it’s perhaps time that you sit yourself down and evaluation the relationship you share with your narcissistic parent. In the process, renegotiate boundaries and call back everything (feelings, voices, to-do lists) that seem rightfully yours.
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