I remember when I got together with my guy. I literally had my head in my hands on a bar, talking to a good friend. I was devastated at yet another break-up with my ex. The pattern was killing me. My friend reminded me of a friend of his who I had met and remarked upon a few months back and told me that this guy was attending his dance party that weekend. My head shot up out of my hands and I saw what could be my future instead of my past. I went to that dance party and the rest is history.
4. Extreme emotions are bad for you.
One thing I know about letting go of a past love is that it’s fraught with big emotions.
You feel angry, sadness, despair, hopelessness, self-loathing and insecurity. Those feelings can all coexist or come and go separately from each other. And those emotions can suck the life out of you.
Feeling extreme emotions can be very debilitating. The long term damage caused to your body, and mind, by anger and sadness, are quite profound.
Many people don’t realize that your muscles absorb your emotions, especially if you are stuffing them down. This can lead to physical problems, such as a sore back or a frozen shoulder or worse. Your mind can get exhausted by the constant barrage of feelings and you could have a hard time concentrating. The thoughts in your head could keep you from sleeping, which isn’t good for anyone.
If your body, and mind, are in pain, consider the fact that letting go of a past love is the best thing that you can do for both your mental and physical health.
5. You can keep your friends.
When we are going through a breakup, our friends are a valuable resource. They love us unconditionally and want to support us through our pain. They are willing to listen, to assure us that our exes are horrible people and remind us how amazing we are. Getting through breakups without friends is very difficult.
Unfortunately, sometimes there is a statute of limitations that our friends put on their willingness to support us through a breakup. The threshold can change but sooner or later our friends might tell us to get over it and let it go, that it’s time to move on and live our lives.
And, when we don’t or can’t do that, they get sick of us and choose not to spend time with us. Not having your friends is a horrible thing in any situation and especially during a time, we are feeling vulnerable from a breakup.
So, an excellent reason that letting go of a past love is crucial is that you will keep your friendships intact. After all, your people were with you before your ex and will be with you long after. How lucky are you?
Letting go of a past love is absolutely crucial to moving forward and being happy.
Holding on to past love can be damaging to our body, it can cause us to lose our friends, it can keep us from fully living and it can drag us down with the weight of its baggage.
I know that it’s really hard to do and it does take some effort, sometimes a lot of effort, but it can happen and, when it does, you will have a real shot at being happy. And people who are happy attract other people who are happy so living happily ever after isn’t just a possibility!
How great would that be?
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