4. Are you staying with them for the wrong reasons?
This is a very important thing to ask yourself. Why are you choosing to stay with this person? Yes, you love them, but if you feel like you can’t trust them or forgive them then why are you staying?
Are you staying because of your kids, because of finances, because of public perception, because you ‘don’t believe in divorce’ or you ‘don’t believe in giving up?”
Are you staying for any reason other than the fact that you believe that you can forgive and trust and move past what has happened?
If the answer is yes, recognize what that thing is and ask yourself if that thing is worse than you being miserable for, perhaps, the rest of your life. Because that’s what staying with them for the wrong reasons will do.
All of those things that are mentioned above are things that can be dealt with. Being miserable for the rest of your life will not be.
5. Have you tried everything?
For many people, when they let go of someone they love after infidelity, once they do, they have regrets.
They wonder if they did everything that they could do before they walked away. Did they work to trust and to forgive? Did they perhaps work with a life coach or therapist to process what has happened? Did they try couples counseling to try to work through, together, the issues in the relationship?
If you don’t think that you have tried everything that you need to try before letting go of your someone, consider doing so before walking away.
Regret is a horrible thing and if you are considering letting go of someone you love and you haven’t tried everything, you very well might regret it.
Learning how to let go of someone you love after infidelity is a very important next step in seeking future happiness.
It’s not easy to let go of someone you love, even if they have betrayed you. It is important that you don’t make the decision lightly but that you do so knowing that what you have and haven’t done, what you can and can’t do.
Knowing these things, knowing the WHY you are leaving someone, will make letting them go that much easier.
If you want to know more about how you can let go of someone after infidelity, then check out this video below: