I knew that he was as unhappy as I was and I knew that if I could let him go he would have a chance at true happiness. Me letting him go would be the best thing for him.
I couldn’t do it, however, because the thought of him with someone else filled me with too much pain.
But think about your person. You loved them once and might love them still. Would the best thing for them to be out of this never-ending toxicity and be given a chance to be happy? Even if it’s painful for you, might it be the right thing for them?
Think about it.
5. You will get to know yourself again.
One of the best things about letting go of love that hurts is that, in doing so, you will get to know and love yourself again.
For many of us who have been in toxic relationships, whether short or long, we often lose a piece of ourselves.
I was in a relationship with a man for about a year. We loved each other very much but our relationship was fraught with issues. I wanted to end it but he wouldn’t let me go so I kept on coming back to him, even if I knew it wasn’t good for me.
At the end of the year, I found that I was a shell of the person I was when we met. A year of not taking care of myself, of being consumed with someone who wasn’t treating me well, of having my needs ignored and debasing myself by staying had rendered me, someone, I couldn’t even recognize.
When I finally got the nerve to leave him, and stay away from him, for good, I was finally able to get to know myself again. To remember that I was the kind of person who had a lot to give to the world and that there were a lot of people who loved me. I had forgotten about that person and I was so glad to have her back.
Do you know who you are today? Wouldn’t you love to get to know, and love, yourself again?
Letting go of the love that hurts can be one of the hardest things that you can do.
Loving someone means you give your heart and your hope for the future over to another person. Unfortunately, love isn’t perfect and sometimes relationships just aren’t meant to be.
If your relationship is making you unhappy, it’s time to walk away. If you do, you will get healthier, you will be able to focus again and you will get to know yourself. Your person will be happier and you will be able to finally find true love.
How great would that be?
If you want to know more about letting go of the love that hurts, is good for your mind and soul, then check out this video below: