#2 Don’t hold on to grudges.
“To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.” – Jack Kornfield
How do you let go of grudges? By forgiving them. Forgiveness is one of the most liberating and empowering feelings you can ever experience. However, forgiving someone who has seriously hurt you can be really hard. We often hold on to grudges and negative emotions for people who have hurt us and most of the time these are the people closest to our hearts.
The only way to clear your heart and mind and let go of negativity is forgiving them for what they have done and forgiving yourself for holding on to grudges for so long. Most of the time, we get hurt due to our own exaggerated expectations from people and when our expectations are not met we feel hurt, disappointed and angry.
But you need to realize that you cannot control anyone nor do you own anyone. Everyone is free to do what they want and it is not mandatory for them to meet your expectations in the first place. Even if they have hurt you in some other way, understand that it was not really their intention. They simply wanted to do what they thought was best for them.
Whether it’s your parents, your spouse or partner, or your friends, learn to forgive them for whatever they might have done and send them some light and love. We forgive to heal ourselves and to release the ones who hurt us from our negative emotions.
#3 Practice self-love.
We often lack self-confidence or have self-doubts from time to time. This can lead to stress, anger, anxiety, fear, and even depression. Such feelings tend to hold us back and prevent us from doing what we truly want to do. The best way to overcome self-doubt and low self-esteem is to practice positive affirmations daily.
Tell yourself that you are awesome. Tell yourself that you love being you. You don’t need validation from anyone else. The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. And this is why you should be very careful about what you tell yourself.
Tell yourself every day how much you love yourself and why. I know it sounds a bit cheesy, but it works. Not only will you feel good, but you will bring attention to your positive traits and qualities. It is only when you see the good in you, others will start seeing you the same way.
Whenever negative thoughts start to arise in your mind about yourself or even others, shift your focus to what you can do right now that will make you happy, even if temporarily. By using your energy for feeling happiness & satisfaction, you will give less attention to negativity. Positive affirmations lead to positive thinking, unconditional self-love and even transforms your beliefs for the better.
#4 Focus on positive action.
“It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things.” – Theodore Roosevelt
Do you know that starving artists are often happier than most business executives? According to a study released by the Journal of Cultural Economics, artists usually have higher job satisfaction than most normal people. Why? Because they work on their strengths. They do what makes them happy whether it’s singing, playing an instrument, painting, or writing.
Doing what we are good at makes us happy and more positive in general.
However, you don’t need to be creative or artistic to feel positive. You can do anything that you love as long as you don’t waste time sitting on your couch and watching TV or Netflix or whatever. Take positive action. Pursue an online course, spend more time with your dog, write a story, sketch something, go for a hike, volunteer for a cause, sign up for a dance class, get a gym membership or just go shopping.
There are endless things that you can do by pursuing old and new hobbies. These can boost your mental well-being and make you feel more positive by reshaping your thoughts and ideas. Irrespective of what you do, get busy.