Find people who are optimistic and nonjudgmental.
We don’t need to be labeled with a condition. We don’t need to be told we have no boundaries, we’re in denial or we let this happen. – None of this applies and is more damaging.
We weren’t in a relationship. We were attacked. – We need support in understanding and healing from the trauma caused by a sociopath. This is not bad break-up counseling.
5. Please – don’t even think about dating.
Allow lots of time to recover. Dating now is a sure path to more of the same. Believe it.
Remember con artists, users, and takers sense vulnerability.
Right now we’re more vulnerable than a newborn baby.
As we can – do things that soothe. – Avoid romantic music and “our song”. Go for care and nurturing. We gave up things we love doing during the con. – Start again as we’re able. Fall in love with ourselves.
A Sociopath Tells Us How To Break Up with Them
A real-live sociopath tells us how to get them gone:
“You may think the sociopath respects your boundaries, but the sociopath will not be sympathetic to your needs. The sociopath does not have or respect boundaries. The sociopath has his needs, and will fight to make sure they’re met.
You do not want to get into an all-out fight with a sociopath when the sociopath feels like his survival is threatened.
With a sociopath, the best thing to do is to make the breakup seem like it was his or her choice; poison the well so the sociopath willingly leaves.
Become a helpless, emotionless, reactionless burden. Start being contrary, without being openly defiant. Pretend you’re tired, sick, depressed, say you forgot your keys; be incompetent, but make everything seem like an accident. If the sociopath gets mad, say, “Sorry,” but don’t fight back. Say, “I don’t know what’s come over me.”
Have long phone conversations with…people the sociopath hates. In general, let yourself go completely…be as intolerable to live with as possible without being confrontational.
After about three months (give or take), the sociopath will be out of your life.
You should be in the clear after the sociopath has been gone 3 to 6 months. By that time the sociopath will not need you to satisfy any of his basic needs.” ~ Anonymous Sociopath
This is the reality of every sociopath’s mind. Believe it. They hate us.
Use this hideous information. If we’re still living together become absolutely emotionless towards them. Turn off the faucet of giving, shut down – in a sense go no contact while they’re still there.
Leverage their needs, vanity, self-obsession and cold, emotionless heart to get them out. Remove the objects that come with us: money, cars, meal preparation, the internet, cable, errand running, credit cards.
Remember: to trust is human. We are good. We are gorgeous. We are normal. There’s nothing we could or should have done differently. – What we do now is in our hands. Find simple easy things to do to take care of our health and heal. Be safe.
Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!
Time to thrive!
Written By Jennifer Smith
Originally Appeared On Truelovescam
Printed With Permission
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