Learning To Love Myself

Learning To Love Myself

As an empath, I’ve always been the kind of person that wants to help people, to make them believe in goodness, and to be there for them when others aren’t.

I thought this is a good way to help them and to stand there, especially because I know how it is when no one sustains you. I thought that I’m making a difference in someone’s world and this made me feel really good, until one day I realized the vice versa.

I absorb others’ energy; it means I can easily get drained. I feel others’ emotions, and it’s really a struggle for me to learn to observe others’ emotions and not to absorb them. The worst is that people to whom once I was kind were trying to get more of my energy; it seemed like it wasn’t enough the energy I already gave them. So I ended up, tired and feeling worn. I felt like some toxic energy is being spread on me, and I can’t do anything to change this.

And at that moment, in my head rushed a thought: it’s my fault because I’ve tried so hard to be kind to others that I forgot to be kind to myself, also. Because I can’t offer to others my best when I’m drained, I’m tired or I’m sick.

It’s true that our happiness depends on sharing and not on receiving. But I can’t share something I don’t have.

So here’s my conclusion, starting from this moment, I put my mental health above everything else. Not my job, my career, my friends, my family, my hobbies. Nope. My mental health, my inner peace, and my well being. Because I really believe, that it’ll turn out that it’s the best decision. Doing so, I’ll learn to distinguish between who really needs my help and who is an energy drainer. 

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