The second factor that determines whether a person is an introvert or extrovert is how they process their thoughts.
If you are dating an introverted man, then you must know that introverts typically thinks things through before speaking and doesn’t enjoy small talk.
This is why introverts may come across as shy, but in all honesty, they are playing conversations through their own mind before saying them out loud.
The extrovert needs to talk things through in order to get clear on what they think.
This is why extroverts may seem more outgoing or are often guilty of interrupting others during a conversation.
Usually, when an extrovert does this, they are trying to get clear around what their opinion might actually be. The introvert doesn’t always understand this because when they decide to speak, they usually have already decided on how they feel about the topic that they’re discussing, and the point of saying anything is to share that thought with you.
That said, because men in general rarely love talking about their feelings when you’re dating an introverted man – he is even more likely to bide his time before telling you how he feels about you.
Introvert or extrovert, though, no one likes feeling pressured. Right?
The core of your question though isn’t just about being patient with dating an introverted man, it’s really about fear.
The fear of being rejected if he doesn’t feel the same. The fear that you would spend too much of your time on this guy if he really had no interest in a possible future.
And the fact of the matter is, my dear, nothing in life is certain.
We want to hold out for that certainty of, “I care about you and therefore want you to love me back.”
The best relationship advice I can give you if you are dating an introverted man is that you must take a leap of faith if you care about this guy. Because it’s better to begin building a future together thanks to a brave moment on your part than it is for him to just assume that you don’t have deeper feelings for him.
Sure, if he doesn’t feel the same, it will mean a little heartache now. But the longer you wait, the harder it will be to bring up the subject, and the greater the risk that he’ll hurt you if he doesn’t feel the same way.
That said, when you ask about the future, do it in a loving and open way. As I mentioned, no one likes to feel pressured to make a decision about a relationship that they aren’t ready to make.
Maybe the best place to ask is via email, saying something along the lines of “I had such a wonderful time when we were together, and I know the distance can be a challenge, but my gut tells me we have something special here.”
Then… be patient for his response.
Remember that as an introverted man, he may need a little time to think about how he feels.
This does not mean he doesn’t feel the same about you, but give him the respect of no pressure and a way to reply back in his own way and time.
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Written by: DEBRA SMOUSE
Originally appeared on: Attract The One
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