9. People have called you “safe” before.
You know what that means, and it’s not a bad thing. It means they know they can depend on you.
10. You’re known for making it your personal duty to keep friends and family happy.
To a point, ISTJs are known for being people pleasers. They will often go the extra mile to keep people around them happy, simply because they feel it’s the right thing to do. They may even blame themselves for things that are not in their control because of this.
11. Overall, you’re a very calm and practical person.
You’re all about realistic goals and slowly reaching them. Anxiety doesn’t really happen unless you’re thrown for a loop, and even then, it’s almost always temporary.
12. The only time you’ll see an ISTJ be spastic is if they are perfectionists.
This is probably the biggest Achilles’ heel of the ISTJ personality type. For ISTJs, everything has to be perfect, especially at work. For everyone else, dealing with an ISTJ who takes this too far can be a nightmare.
Attraction-wise, ISTJs have the personalities that work well for them in the dating scene. As an ISTJ, you are the type of person people want to marry and settle down with.
It makes sense, considering how traditional, honest, and homey you tend to be. Most people would be thrilled to take you home to mom, but there’s a catch with your personality type that tends to make dating hard: excitement.
Simply put, ISTJs tend to be a bit on the “boring” side, so you may have to work on being more exciting to the opposite sex. You may also want to look for someone who likes the “by the books” lifestyle that you tend to have.
When it comes to relationship issues, there are three that tend to be major love killers for ISTJs. First, there’s the issue that it’s very easy to fall into a rut with an ISTJ.
Being open to new experiences will make things light years better for you in the dating realm. Additionally, the blunt and stubborn nature ISTJs have can make them prone to arguments. You need to learn to be willing to compromise.
Lastly, the biggest hurdle you may have is the control issue. ISTJs, when they get perfectionistic and commanding, can become extremely controlling in relationships. Part of being in a relationship is learning how to trust your partner to do right by you. So, if you find yourself needing to micromanage them, you may need to leave them.
Overall, being an ISTJ is a great thing if you are looking for a long-term relationship. If you’re looking for the short-term (which you almost never are), it’s not so good.
That being said, you provide stability and joy to the right partner and always do what you can to please them. So, you’re a great catch for the right match.