Are You A Nasty Dater? 5 Ways To Be Kinder When You Date

Ways Be Kinder When You Date

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4. Don’t Just Go Through The Motions. Be Fully Present.

Instead of going through the motions, be genuinely curious about what makes your date tick and who he or she is on a deeper level. Make him or her feel like you’re truly interested. And also share about yourself. Slow down, be truly present, and stop listening with the intent to talk. That will make such a difference in the quality of your dates and your dating experiences will improve.

Related: 7 Tips And Tricks For Dating In Your 50s


5. After A Date, Don’t Say You’re Open To Going Out Again If It’s Not True. And Don’t Blow People Off!

I know you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but ignoring someone is mean – no ghosting allowed! Instead of disappearing after a date, it’s better to call or send a text the next day that says something like this:

“I really enjoyed spending time with you and think you’re a great person (*you can add some genuine compliments here if you wish). But I’ve spent some time thinking about it, and I don’t feel we’re the right fit. I wish you all the best and know you’ll meet someone wonderful.”

Sending a note like this after a date is so much better than going POOF and disappearing or ignoring someone’s texts or calls. And if you’ve been dating someone for a while and decide he or she isn’t a fit, have a similar conversation.

Blowing someone off is one of the most unkind things you can do. Be brave enough to be honest. In other words, grow a pair! Sometimes it takes courage to do the right thing, but you can do it.

Dating is hard, but it doesn’t have to be. Don’t succumb to Dating ADD. Stop focusing on quantity and be genuinely curious about each and every person you meet. Give them your compassionate and undivided attention so you can figure out who they are and if they are a fit. If they’re not, let them know in the kindest way. In fact, be kind at all times. You’ll enjoy dating more, and the Universe will reward you. That’s the way things work. I know this because I’ve seen it happen again and again.

Related: 5 Glaring Signs That You Are Dating A Narcissist And How To Leave Them


Here’s to being kinder in every aspect of your life, especially when dating.

“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” ~Dalai Lama

“Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.”~Scott Adams
“A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love.” ~Saint Basil

Michelle Jacoby is an award-winning matchmaker and dating coach. To discover the mistakes that will kill your chances of finding love, download Michelle’s FREE ebook “The 12 Mistakes That Will Kill Your Chances Of Finding Mr. Right”.

Published with author’s permission.


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