3. Don’t compare yourself to others.
Maybe your best friend has her daughter and grandchildren living a couple of blocks away, but yours is on the other side of the country expecting her first child.
Or perhaps your neighbor has all of his siblings and their children over every Friday for a huge family gathering, while your siblings are scattered around the world and you haven’t all been together in over a decade.
It’s difficult to not compare your situation to others, to mourn what you don’t have in the face of others having it. Social media can make this even harder to ignore. But as the old saying goes, the comparison is the thief of joy. And the best thing to do is avoid the bitterness is to make peace with what you have — and what is possible.
And it’s interesting to note… you never know who is looking at your situation and wishing their life looked more like yours.
4. Make sure you don’t let too much time go by without some form of contact.
The marvelous thing about all of the technology available today is the incredible variety of communication you can have with someone. From ordering flowers for no special reason to asking Alexa to turn on lights as your partner gets home, to the arrival of a Candy-gram, all can celebrate the quality of your caring. The distance might be regrettable, but ultimately it means nothing because the relationship remains meaningful.
Yet every relationship requires a loving touch from time to time and relationships need nurturing no matter what the distance involved. So you want to be aware and do your part to keep the fire of the relationship fueled. That’s unique for all relationships, whether it’s one that depends on more or less frequent contact.
If it works for both of you, then that’s the ticket. But sometimes finding out how much contact is enough to contact involves compromise.
But it’s more than achievable.
All four of these lead to having a much calmer and more fulfilling relationship with those you love. And help to keep your awareness on the side of the glass that’s half-full, instead of half-empty.
And that can be a huge gift to give yourself, as well as those you love.
Written by Dr. Margaret Rutherford
Originally appeared in Dr. Margaret Rutherford
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