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Keepers: 15 Identifying Traits of Successful Long-Term Relationship Partners

Traits Successful LongTerm Relationship Partners

Are You a Keeper? Rate your relationship desirability

Good long-term relationship partners have many of these traits. You can probably think of others that have special significance for you or your partner. The following short quiz will help you evaluate where you stand now on these fifteen.

The quiz is comprised of one summary question for each of the fifteen traits. Answer each question with a number corresponding to the following guide:

Most of the time = 5

Some of the time = 4

Occasionally = 3

Not often = 2

Never = 1

Trait One – Accountability

Do you take responsibility for the decisions you make and the behaviors they cause?____

Trait Two – Rhythm

Are you comfortable with your personal rhythm and how you blend with those of others?___

Trait Three – Interest

Do you actively help to make each situation interesting?___

Trait Four – Humor

Do you help people to see the sunny side of life when it’s appropriate?___

Trait Five – Evenness

Can you stay centered under stress?___

Trait Six -Guilt

Have you let go of worrying about mistakes?___

Trait Seven -Storing Good Times

Do you remember to keep a cache of meaningful experiences?___

Trait Eight – Authenticity

Can you be trusted by others to be honest about what you believe?___

Trait Nine – Marketability

Are you realistic about your value to others?___

Trait Ten – Valuing Others

Do you treasure the people you’re with?___

Trait Eleven – Staying Focused on what is important

Do you avoid getting caught up in useless energy drains?___

Trait Twelve – Self-soothing

Can you calm yourself when stressed?___

Trait Thirteen – Transformation

Are you committed and open to seeing things in new ways?___

Trait Fourteen – Self-Care

Are you taking good care of yourself?___

Trait Fifteen – Being Present

Are you treasuring your present moments?___

Add up your scores. The total will end up somewhere between 15 and 75. The higher your score, the more you are a Keeper.

You may find that you score three or higher in some categories and less in others. Look first at those questions where you scored a 1 or 2. Those are the most important areas to work on. No one is perfect, so don’t criticize yourself or your partner.

Related: Signs She’s a Keeper And You Should Cherish Her

Change takes commitment, but it also takes time and practice. Your higher scores may already be serving you well in your current relationships.

Hopefully, after learning about the traits and behaviors that predict better long-term relationship success, you will look for them sooner in new relationships.

Keepers are sometimes just born that way but, more often, they hone themselves by life experiences and their determination to have more successful relationships.

If anyone you know calls you a Keeper, consider yourself one of the chosen people. It is the most significant compliment any person can give another.

Written By Randi Gunther Ph.D.

Who Are The "Keepers?" 15 Identifying Traits of Successful Long-Term Partners
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Dr. Randi Gunther

In her 40-year-career as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor, She Had Spent Over 100,000 face-to-face hours with singles and couples helping them to sort out their desires and conflicts about intimate relationships. She Had explored all the reasons why their relationships so often start out euphoric only to crumble and how they can turn those disappointments into future successes. She truly believe that the greatest obstacles standing between you and the love you want is often right before your eyes but you are unable to envision the journey. Her specialty is to help you look at yourself and your relationships with heroic honesty and the willingness to look deeply at yourself and what you bring to a relationship so that you can finally create the kind of transformation that will change you forever. You'll finally understand why you've struggled in love, and what skills you'll need to create the kind of relationship you've always wanted - one in which you fall deeper in love while simultaneously scaling the heights of your individual potential. It's how her husband and She have made their marriage their bedrock for over 60 years. Subscribe to her free advice newsletter at where she'll tell you everything she has learned about finding and keeping a truly heroic relationship.View Author posts