This is something Perel has seen time and again in her practice as a therapist and the same sentiment is echoed by others in the field. I, myself, have seen this among my clients too.
However, it’s all a balancing act, meaning that if you have absolutely no time together you’re probably better off spending the little time you do have – with one another.
If you do everything together or can’t remember the last time you were out and about without your partner – making space for some alone time could be a good idea.
Examples of how to do this could be:
- Going for a long walk
- Hanging out with a friend
- Practicing a hobby
If you want to give this a go, it’s a good idea to first talk about it with your partner. If you don’t, chances are your partner might take your sudden urge to hang out without him/her as a sign that’s something’s off(!).
Bringing this up can be tricky, but by following the tips about communication and relationships in this blog post, you’ll be in a great position to have the conversation without setting off any alarm bells.
Even if the two surprising ways to keep a relationship alive might seem unconventional and unnatural, trying something new might just be what you’ve needed all along — both you — and your relationship!
If you want to know more about the ways you can keep your relationship exciting, then you might like this video:
Originally published on Therapy by Leigh at https://www.therapybyleigh.com/human-sexuality-blog/2-surprising-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive