8 Ways Jealousy Harms Your Relationships

Jealousy Harms Relationships

3. Jealousy makes you doubtful.

“Jealousy lives upon doubts. It becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty.” – Francois de la Rochefoucauld

The more jealous you become, the more obsessed you will get with spying on your partner. The fear of being hurt by the person you love so much will force you to observe and find out every single detail about your partner.

You will get obsessed about what they are doing, where they are, who they are spending time with, what they do in their free time, who they are with when they are not with you, why they are working late etc.

Can you feel that anxiety? This will be your 24/7. You will check their smartphone, texts, and emails at every opportunity you get. You will stalk their social media to see who is commenting on their posts the most. You will become obsessed with your partner and ignore yourself. 

4. Jealousy makes you suffer.

Being insecure, afraid, and obsessed with your partner all the time will drain you mentally, emotionally, and physically. You feel hurt, ignored, and neglected even though your partner might be genuinely busy with work or their personal lives. You feel confused and frustrated as you don’t understand the situation and make it worse by creating imaginary scenarios inside your head.

Your anxiety levels rise and you feel highly stressed. This leads to insomnia and lack of appetite and soon you start suffering physically as well. All of this because you gave in to the devil called jealousy.

5. Jealousy makes you possessive.

When you start feeling jealous, you become even more desperate to own your partner. You become and act possessive by having a sense of ownership. You start having unrealistic expectations from them and fail to maintain any personal boundaries in the relationship.

But the fact is, in a relationship no one owns anyone. Love is not about owning someone. It is about acceptance and understanding. Possessiveness will only end up brutally murdering your relationship.

6. Jealousy makes you control your partner.

“Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy – in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.” – Robert A. Heinlein

Jealousy makes you possessive and possessiveness makes you want to control your partner. When you have a misguided sense of ownership over your partner, you will instinctively become more controlling your relationship. You will become more demanding and order them around most of them. You will tell them what they should and shouldn’t do.

And eventually, you will try to control each and every aspect of them and your relationship. But that’s not how a healthy relationship works. Controlling your partner can seriously affect their self-esteem and ego emotionally hurt your partner. If you feel like you are becoming controlling or if you are on the receiving end, then it’s time for you to sit down and have an open conversation with your lover.

Related: 7 Little Lies Jealousy Whispers in Your Ear

7. Jealousy steals your peace.

As you can imagine by now, becoming a doubtful, insecure, possessive and controlling person will make you lose all your mental peace. The same applies to your partner, whether they are your victim or the jealous partner. Both of you will eventually lose your peace and engage in regular conflicts without any reason.

By constantly worrying about losing your partner and feeling an urgent need for controlling them, you will feel highly anxious and stressed. 

8. Jealousy destroys relationships.

If you are entangled in the web of jealousy unable to find any way out, then your relationship is over. If you and your partner are not communicating and sharing your feelings with each other, if you are not listening to your partner’s side of the story, if you are not keen on understanding the real issue, then there is no hope.

Lost trust, doubt, insecurity, and constant fights will end your relationship sooner than you believe.

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