Quiet Ones : The frequently misunderstood:
Listening to the spiciest gossip and the craziest stories is what fascinates everyone in the first go. ‘The life of party’ grabs all the attention through the impeccable communication skills but how about that guy sneaking in the corners…The silent in all… The listener of the group?
Well that misunderstood dumb fellow is actually the sharpest brain of among you. This could possibly be hard to digest but is indeed a fact.
It is a common notion and the first instinct of the society to consider the ones who talk less to be simple, naïve, gullible. But perhaps you are underestimating the smartest opponent. Behind their not so confident personality, these quiet ones can mysteriously possess the most intelligent attributes.
Those who talk less are great observers- The time an extrovert spends in chatting and socializing with others, is utilized by an introvert in observing the surroundings. They get to study people and the environment and hence form opinions. Their conservative and not so interactive nature gives them ample time for it.
Those who talk less value and appreciate other’s opinion- if you talk less, feel good about the fact that people love you for making them feel important and worth listening to. It takes patience to listen to someone attentively and hence use it to gain as much knowledge as possible. Apart from enriching your knowledge, you increase the bandwidth of your opinion and enhance communication skills.
They are conscious of what they speak- they do not prefer to mutter out what they feel every now and then. ‘Talking to the point’ is their style. Crisp and substantial information uttered once in the conversation by them is enough to leave you dumbstruck… They take their own decisions based on the observations and try to learn from an extrovert’s mistake and hence trying to make better decision for themselves.
They take time to analyze and respond back- people who talk less do not jump to conclusion directly. They grasp as much information as possible. They prepare themselves for every possible question (which probably they would never have to answer) and hence understand the versatility in perceptions and opinions. Processing of the discussion matters to them more than verbal participation
They have an independent mind-set- since introverts do not have a spread social life, they do not hang out in popular circle thereby reducing the chances of getting influenced by the popular groups. They always manage to stick to their individuality. Since they are reserved they get saved from getting attached to people in order to crumble under their influence…
They have time for self care- spending time in solitude rather than partying gives them time for soul searching and personal growth. As a result of it they have better emotional and psychological health.
So the next time you are judging an introvert by their first impression and consider them at a loss for not being a good communicator, think again because they can be one of those who have got most benefits, wits and smartness.
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