Is it Love or Lust: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself

How Mercury functions in a person’s birth chart explain a great deal about how they think, formulate ideas and communicate them. It indicates how someone makes sense of the everyday world they live in.

A person’s Mercury sign tells us how easy or difficult it is to communicate with them, especially about sensitive issues. It helps explain why we have similar ways of thinking about all kinds of matters or, why we tend to have radically different ideas than they do.

If your Mercury sign is compatible with the other person, you’ll find them understanding, supportive and easy to talk with. If they are incompatible, you’ll end up disagreeing, arguing and fighting much of the time you’re together.

The sign that Mercury is in can tell you whether a person is likely to communicate in an honest, positive and optimistic manner, or more negatively in a secretive or deceptive way. Their sign can also tell you whether they are prone to use their communications to put down others, be extremely critical, sarcastic or argumentative.

So, if you’re going to get along, have harmonious communication and compatible ideas with your partner, it’s important to know your Mercury sign and theirs. Then, you can determine whether or not you are likely to have compatible communication with each other.


VENUS – Love Compatibility

3. Would I still love this person, if they were to lose all their material possessions?

Look to the planet Venus to find out if you’ll feel a love connection with this person. Venus is the planet that rules love, relationships, and pleasure. The way that Venus functions in your life, gives you valuable insight into your love nature, how you have fun, and your enjoyment of beauty. This planet’s influence gives your personality that special charm that draws others to you, and the sex appeal that the right person may find irresistible.

Your Venus sign tells you a great deal about the kind of lovers you attract or that attract you. It describes the ways you seek enjoyment and express your sensuous nature. This planet shows your capacity to express and receive affection. Venus’ influence on you also shows the way you relate to the opposite sex, and how you’re likely to love them and want to be loved.

So, it’s important to know what sign your Venus is in—if you want to understand your intimate relationship needs and to find someone who will really make you feel happy and loved, even if they have nothing materially to offer you


MARS – Sexual Compatibility

4. Do I feel a feel real chemistry and excitement to do things with this person?

Look to the planet Mars to find out if you’re going to be sexually compatible with the other person. This planet rules your physical energy, actions, the way you initiate and your drive. Mars is also the planet that rules your sex drive, desire nature, and how you put your needs and wants into action.

Your Mars sign gives insights about whether your sexual relationship with the other person is likely to be intense, passionate, tempestuous, conventional or lacking in vitality. Whether you’re a man or a woman, it rules your sex drive. In simple terms: Mars is the planet of passion and sexuality.

It also describes the kind of person you’ll feel an immediate physical chemistry. This will be someone who’s most likely to really turn you on, (as in “hot and excited”). So, it’s important to know what sign your Mars is in (and what sign the other person’s Mars is in) – if you want to feel the amazing chemistry in your relationship and find someone you’re sexually compatible. This valuable knowledge will help you avoid getting stuck with someone who will prove to be a big disappointment sexually.

Mars also rules being assertive and active. It may be important that you have a relationship with someone who is active and enjoys doing the kind of things you like doing. If you are energetic and enjoy doing many activities, you may not be compatible with someone who prefers spending most of their free time sitting on the couch watching television.


SUN – Personality Compatibility

5. Do I feel attracted to this person emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually?

Look to the Sun to find out if you’ll be attracted to a person’s personality. Your Sun sign represents your ego and basic identity. It describes your general character and the traits of your personality. Your Sun sign indicates the way you express your will and individuality as the unique person you are. Your Sun sign determines how others will see you. To feel a strong attraction with the other person, it’s important that your Sun signs are compatible.

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Larry Schwimmer
Larry Schwimmer is president of, a San Francisco-based consulting company. The firm uses planetary cycles analysis to counsel individual and corporate clients on picking the “best dates” to make successful decisions of all types: personal, marketing, financial, and political. Schwimmer is an internationally known business consultant, life coach, and astrologer (with a Fortune 500 M&A background). Visit his website:
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