5. Accept you won’t be able to change it all
I have always believed I was born into the family I had to be born in. Now whether you are someone who believes in lessons across multiple lives or someone who swears by learn-all-you-can-it’s-just-one-life, one fact remains – you were born into this family and you had no conscious control of it (not that you know of).
So there will be aspects that will have been transmitted as part of your genetic code, aspects of which will never bubble up to your consciousness.
A part of healing is to accept that you went through certain circumstances as did your ancestors but that you now have the power to transform your life.
As the field of epigenetics grows, it becomes clear that our molecular memory binds us to all those who went before us. With some patience and some compassion towards who we were given birth by and ourselves, we can go a long way in the journey of healing from intergenerational trauma.