10 Initial Desires Of A Narcissist At The Outset Of A Relationship

The Ten Initial Desires of the Narcissist


6. You won’t get too close

Perhaps if you avoid getting too close to us you will not then let us down like the others before you have. We hope that you can provide us with all the things that we desire without the need to invade our inner sanctum which must remain locked and shuttered. Do not attempt to enter there for the consequences are too dreadful, for us both. Do not get too close and perhaps we have a chance to achieve the other desires that we wish for.


7. You really do love us

They all seem to do so at the beginning but then we find ourselves surrounded by charlatans, con-merchants, and frauds. Why does this always happen? All we want is for you to love us, unconditionally and eternally. That is what we only ever wanted.


8. You will not wound us

No matter how grand and imperial we are, no matter how magnificent our achievements and our deportment that signals to the world that we are truly brilliant, a leader in our field, a behemoth and a colossus, we can be wounded with such despicable ease by those who send criticism our way. It hurts, it burns and it wounds and we must defend ourselves against such unwarranted and disgusting behavior. Perhaps you will be the one who will not wound us in this way.


9. You will not leave

Don’t leave us. The others have always done so. We do not understand why that is after everything that we have done, all the things we endeavored to do to please them and then this is what happens. The others leave us twice. They come with such promise and deliver for a time but then they do so no longer and through such an omission they leave us. We want that person to return but struggle to contain the fury which is unleashed from this horrible criticism of us and then you sever all possibility of a return when you walk away from us. Do you know who you are when you do that?


10. You won’t make us leave you.

Please do not do the things which force us away from you. The others all headed down that path. It causes us to consider that we are cursed, forever burdened by the fate that we will have no choice other than to leave you in order to secure our survival. Perhaps you can be the one who prevents that feeling from happening?

Each and every time these ten desires loom large when we commence our engagement with you. Some show such promise and for such a time and then one by one these desires are crushed, shattered and obliterated. We know only one way to respond to the destruction of our desires because we are red of tooth and claw.

The desires of the narcissist in your life will always be endless, and even if you have nothing left to give them, they will continue to take.


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Written by H.G. Tudor
Originally appeared on Narcsite.com

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The Ten Initial Desires of the Narcissist
10 Initial Desires Of A Narcissist At The Outset Of A Relationship
The Ten Initial Desires of the Narcissist
10 Initial Desires Of A Narcissist At The Outset Of A Relationship

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