What’s next once you realize this?
It’s up to you. When you work with me, our first step is to help you get some emotional distance and perspective to see yourself and the relationship with the Hijackal differently and clearly. You move through learning about yourself first. When that is working well, I guide you to use strategies that are most likely to work with your particular Hijackal. You practice those and we tweak them to see what changes are possible. Once that’s done, you are ready to make decisions about your relationship.
So, if you’re hearing “It’s all your fault,” and hearing “It’s all your fault” once more is going to push you over the edge, it’s time for something different. Learn how to respond effectively to “It’s all your fault” once and for all.
Start by joining my Closed Facebook group, Optimize Life! It’s so important for you to know you’re not alone, and you’ll see members from all corners of the globe experiencing just what you’re experiencing.
Let’s talk soon.
© Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
Originally appeared on Forrelationship.com