How To Identify a Love Bomber: The Narcissist’s Soulmate Scam

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He might even ask, “Where have you been all my life?”

You might even find yourself wondering the same thing. 

The Soulmate Con

“Oh my god, I’ve never felt like this before!”

Narcissists play on our insecurities, and they tend to be rather attracted to empaths (mostly because they’re easy targets as they tend to be very in touch with others’ emotions – the narc uses this to their advantage). 

Related: 15 Reasons Narcissists and Sociopaths Lie

In many cases, they use our deepest fears against us, including and especially the fear of being alone. 

In love bombing, this takes a whole other turn – they go the other direction and make you feel loved, needed and protected. 

One common way they do this is to tell you that they feel like you’re their soulmate. You fall for it because we all want to believe that our perfect One is out there, and the narcissist knows this and uses it against us. 

His Evil Ex

How does he talk about his ex? Most narcissists will have a terrible sob story to tell you about theirs. They will tell you how toxic she was and how crazy, and how by the end of it, he basically hated her. 

They will also sometimes tell you that “she left him” because of cheating or some other reason, but often, they blatantly lie because, let’s face it, it works. 

You feel sorry for him and without even realizing it, you may just vow to yourself that you’re going to become His Perfect Woman and make sure the poor thing doesn’t go through all of that ever again. 

See, as women, we’re caregivers. It’s in our nature to want to take care of and fix people and their problems. Especially when we’re in love with them.

Related: The Narcissistic Love Script: Why He Chose You and Why He Dumped You

But it all feels so good!

So, here’s the thing. If you’re currently in the love bombing phase, it’s unlikely that you’re actually reading this article right now. That’s because, during the “bombing” period, you’re going to feel absolutely amazing. 

You’ll reason that this must be the person you’ve been waiting your whole life to meet. You’ll feel that this relationship is special, different – and yes, you’ll be certain that he’s your soulmate. 

When you’re in that place, you have no reason to go around researching stuff like this. Because you don’t know him so you don’t feel the need to identify love bomber.

Most likely, though, you’re here because you want to know what happened to the guy you fell in love with. You feel like he changed so drastically, and you want to know what you’ve done wrong. 

Related: 5 Ways To Disarm A Love Bombing Sociopath

You might even think you’re going a little crazy, or that somehow you’re to blame for all of this.

Here are some things you need to know about identifying love bomber.

Have you experienced love bombing before? What other red-flags did you notice? Need help? Here’s a video playlist that will help you recognize the red flags of narcissists.

Written By  Angie Atkinson
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 Identify a Love Bomber: The Narcissist’s Soulmate Scam
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Angie Atkinson

Certified Life Coach, Author, Survivor. Discover, Understand and Overcome Narcissistic Abuse with Certified Life Coach, author and survivor Angie Atkinson, a recognized expert in narcissism in relationships and narcissistic personality disorder. As creator of the DUO Method of Healing, it's her mission to to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires - into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. As you can see when you visit the freebies page at, Atkinson's online daily magazine, she's all about paying it forward.View Author posts