The truth, although hard to swallow for many people, is that many women just don’t have the desire to have children. Some have maternal instincts, others don’t, but the desire to nurture doesn’t always need to be expressed through child-rearing. Often childless women are compassionate volunteers, caring pet owners, loving friends, or passionate artists – tasks that all require nursing and mothering to different extents.
As author Gloria Steinem famously stated:
“Everyone with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal chords has to be an opera singer.”
Womanliness does not need to be defined by having children any more than manliness doesn’t need to be defined by having big muscles.
We are raised making many assumptions that often go unchallenged in life. These assumptions often result in unnecessary and harmful stereotypes, ideals, beliefs, and pressures that are placed on us all throughout our lives.
If you keep telling people “I don’t want children” good on you, I say. Your life is your making. It doesn’t need to be defined by other people’s expectations.
What have your experiences been with having children, or remaining childless?
Originally appeared on Loner Wolf Written By Aletheia Luna