I don’t get it.

I don’t get it.

60 thoughts on “I don’t get it.”

  1. Ion get it either sum times its necessary tho for them to move on and protect their hearts other times the feelings jus weren’t the same but don’t let hurt feelings find an answer 4 u because feelings lie everyone has a reason for doing everything whether they understand it or not n more than likely its not you but you plus their past plus their pain plus their etc the list goes on and on

  2. I’m sure this doesn’t explain every situation and every personality type, but you’re describing a door slam. http://personalitygrowth.com/the-hard-truth-about-the-infj-door-slam. You’re not forgotten. You’re purposely removed from their life at great cost to them. Generally because you’ve been emotionally abusing them for a long time, they’ve been trying desperately to understand and fix the issue behind the scenes, and you either haven’t noticed or cared enough to change. They care about you greatly and don’t want to lose you, but feel like they have exhausted themselves trying everything, have taken enough abuse, and have no other choice than to remove you or lose themselves. Again, not every situation, but that is one explanation.

  3. They don’t, they either repress them, cling to a dying relationship or have the courage to take the pain of the loss. Relationships fail due to irreconcilable differences. I tend to go into a relationship respecting that it is about mutuality and shared experience rather than a transaction between two entities. Most don’t seem capable of that and end up saying my way or the highway. Don’t spit your dummy because it didn’t go the way you wanted? I remember as a kid, in the nursery playing with the toys there was always that kid that was like: my fire engine. So I’d be like fine I’ll play with the police car. “My police car, wahhhh!” would be their next outburst. Well screw you bitch learn to share or go cry to mummy about how horrible I am when I tell you to kiss my ass. Want a meaningful relationship, play together. Want a transactional relationship learn to negotiate terms. Want it all your way, get a gun and put it to my head I’ll still tell you to kiss my ass.

  4. Nooo it’s not like that. Nothing happens just like that. Nothing happens instantly. Nothing happens without a series of warning signs. It’s just that this someone writing this, assumed the other person stays no matter what. Despite all the lies, mistreating, cheating, etc. The author of this words just took the other person for granted. That person was trying. Really hard. To adjust. Shifting her boundaries a bit more time after time. But then there was just no more place for moving the boundaries further away. So it was just a matter of time. It’s either this person breaks. Or walks away. And the other party just didn’t see it coming. Or chose not to see. Or believed she has no guts to leave him. But she did.

  5. It’s called choice of focus… It’s why you don’t remember some shit you did in life. Welcome to it and get over it. People can choose their focus just like this author chooses to focus on this shit. You’re not always as important as you think you are to others.

  6. “It is never late to ask yourself ‘Am I ready to change my life, am I ready to change myself?.’ However old we are, whatever we went through, it is always possible to reborn. If each day is a copy of the last one, what a pity! Every breath is a chance to reborn. But to reborn into a new life, you have to die before dying.”
    — Shams Tabrizi <3

  7. Yeh log babool ke tree ke jaisey hotey hai.na chaya dey saktey hai,na fruits ki mithas dey saktey hai.yeh toh Kanto ko lekar paida hotey hai,aur inka kaam hota hai,jo inkey pass aata hai ,usko kaanta chubho dena.

  8. Babool ke tree ke nichey Khade hum hongey aur sochengey ki ab yeh humey rasiley mangoes ke fruits dega toh yeh mistake humari hai,babool ke tree ki nahi.
    Bass aisey he humko choose karna chahiye ki kaun humarey Sath life me aur aagey chalega.

  9. You’re not an INTJ. If you betray my trust repeatedly or outlandishly, it’s like you never even happened. I can pass by you like you never existed or talk to a mutual friend with you standing by their side and not acknowledge your presence. My friendship is 100% loyal or not at all. Once the trust is broken, I’m done.

    1. I read your comment with interest as I’m experiencing this right now – as the recipient of the ignorance.
      I get where you’re coming from but I’d be curious to know what constitutes a betrayal of trust in your eyes?
      What’s your yard stick? Do you make adjustments to the yard stick depending on circumstances e.g. 12 years of marriage?

    2. I have “circles of trust” (yes, I know that sounds ridiculous). The outermost is people I don’t know, so very little trust, and little chance of being cut off. The innermost is my husband, so many more opportunities for forgiveness. Just outside of that circle is my parents, in-laws, sister & best friend. Just outside of that is the spouses of my sister & BIL, and good friends. Then a few more circles that are much more permeable. Someone can move closer and further on the level of trust/loyalty. If the betrayal(s) erode my trust, it’s just easier to cut them off. Once the trust is completely gone, it can’t be re-built. INTJs are very logical, and emotions are really heavy/difficult for them to sort through. If someone frequently requires them to sort through & process emotions, it’s just easier to place them in a black out zone and “delete your existence”. Honestly, I’m still hurt, but tired of working through the emotions, so I don’t.

  10. I’d say me neither…and i know these people they are fucked up that’s why…no compassionate true loving person could do this otherwise. It’s one of the worst selfish actions one can do to another…….word of advice *have no expectations of anything* practice non attachment….and love purely namaste ( )

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