I don’t get it.
” to me very sad! “
This is really amazing. Every word could come out of my mouth. After 30 years together…I just don’t get it.
I’ve recently experienced all this first hand and I believe the fears in myself caused that ️very reaction. All I can do is blame myself and hopefully change my ways
Word to that one dude
Ion get it either sum times its necessary tho for them to move on and protect their hearts other times the feelings jus weren’t the same but don’t let hurt feelings find an answer 4 u because feelings lie everyone has a reason for doing everything whether they understand it or not n more than likely its not you but you plus their past plus their pain plus their etc the list goes on and on
I get it. They’re a coward. They can’t handle the emotions involved so they flip the switch off.
Cause they a cunt!
I’m sure this doesn’t explain every situation and every personality type, but you’re describing a door slam. http://personalitygrowth.com/the-hard-truth-about-the-infj-door-slam. You’re not forgotten. You’re purposely removed from their life at great cost to them. Generally because you’ve been emotionally abusing them for a long time, they’ve been trying desperately to understand and fix the issue behind the scenes, and you either haven’t noticed or cared enough to change. They care about you greatly and don’t want to lose you, but feel like they have exhausted themselves trying everything, have taken enough abuse, and have no other choice than to remove you or lose themselves. Again, not every situation, but that is one explanation.
This happens when
Get over it
If get you to hear me now
Narcissists are built for this!
Me neither… it’s an act of a coward
They don’t, they either repress them, cling to a dying relationship or have the courage to take the pain of the loss. Relationships fail due to irreconcilable differences. I tend to go into a relationship respecting that it is about mutuality and shared experience rather than a transaction between two entities. Most don’t seem capable of that and end up saying my way or the highway. Don’t spit your dummy because it didn’t go the way you wanted? I remember as a kid, in the nursery playing with the toys there was always that kid that was like: my fire engine. So I’d be like fine I’ll play with the police car. “My police car, wahhhh!” would be their next outburst. Well screw you bitch learn to share or go cry to mummy about how horrible I am when I tell you to kiss my ass. Want a meaningful relationship, play together. Want a transactional relationship learn to negotiate terms. Want it all your way, get a gun and put it to my head I’ll still tell you to kiss my ass.
I do, read the poem about the train that how I view life, People come and go in your life
Sara Mravlja Stegenšek
Nooo it’s not like that. Nothing happens just like that. Nothing happens instantly. Nothing happens without a series of warning signs. It’s just that this someone writing this, assumed the other person stays no matter what. Despite all the lies, mistreating, cheating, etc. The author of this words just took the other person for granted. That person was trying. Really hard. To adjust. Shifting her boundaries a bit more time after time. But then there was just no more place for moving the boundaries further away. So it was just a matter of time. It’s either this person breaks. Or walks away. And the other party just didn’t see it coming. Or chose not to see. Or believed she has no guts to leave him. But she did.
It’s called choice of focus… It’s why you don’t remember some shit you did in life. Welcome to it and get over it. People can choose their focus just like this author chooses to focus on this shit. You’re not always as important as you think you are to others.
“It is never late to ask yourself ‘Am I ready to change my life, am I ready to change myself?.’ However old we are, whatever we went through, it is always possible to reborn. If each day is a copy of the last one, what a pity! Every breath is a chance to reborn. But to reborn into a new life, you have to die before dying.” — Shams Tabrizi <3
ITS AN ACT
theuy’re getting into screwing over some one else like they did you
It’s called narcissism
Yeh log babool ke tree ke jaisey hotey hai.na chaya dey saktey hai,na fruits ki mithas dey saktey hai.yeh toh Kanto ko lekar paida hotey hai,aur inka kaam hota hai,jo inkey pass aata hai ,usko kaanta chubho dena.
Babool ke tree ke nichey Khade hum hongey aur sochengey ki ab yeh humey rasiley mangoes ke fruits dega toh yeh mistake humari hai,babool ke tree ki nahi. Bass aisey he humko choose karna chahiye ki kaun humarey Sath life me aur aagey chalega.
Aisa kyo hota hai ,kyonki duniya me bahut kum log aisey hotey hai,jinkey koi ethics hotey hai,kuch laws hotey hai,jinka woh palan kartey hai.
Exactly ,exactly ,exactly I feel so
I don’t get it too。。。。。
Cause they didn’t.
If you love someone, set them free, if they come back to you it was meant to be…..unfortunately some people are missing that sensitivity chip!
I think people can block it out a little bit , but sooner or later ita gotta catch up right ? Im not the one to ask. Feel same as you
Maybe it’s how they protect themselves. Not a good way but it works.
You’re not an INTJ. If you betray my trust repeatedly or outlandishly, it’s like you never even happened. I can pass by you like you never existed or talk to a mutual friend with you standing by their side and not acknowledge your presence. My friendship is 100% loyal or not at all. Once the trust is broken, I’m done.
I read your comment with interest as I’m experiencing this right now – as the recipient of the ignorance. I get where you’re coming from but I’d be curious to know what constitutes a betrayal of trust in your eyes? What’s your yard stick? Do you make adjustments to the yard stick depending on circumstances e.g. 12 years of marriage?
I have “circles of trust” (yes, I know that sounds ridiculous). The outermost is people I don’t know, so very little trust, and little chance of being cut off. The innermost is my husband, so many more opportunities for forgiveness. Just outside of that circle is my parents, in-laws, sister & best friend. Just outside of that is the spouses of my sister & BIL, and good friends. Then a few more circles that are much more permeable. Someone can move closer and further on the level of trust/loyalty. If the betrayal(s) erode my trust, it’s just easier to cut them off. Once the trust is completely gone, it can’t be re-built. INTJs are very logical, and emotions are really heavy/difficult for them to sort through. If someone frequently requires them to sort through & process emotions, it’s just easier to place them in a black out zone and “delete your existence”. Honestly, I’m still hurt, but tired of working through the emotions, so I don’t.
Actually, I do! Thank you for your concern. I’d rather be single than disrespected. You do not know me or my journey so you should not judge. Have a great night.
I’m sure you enjoy being single
It doesn’t make sense because you are assuming that they changed when they never cared about you in the first place you just believed their lies.
I need to learn to be cold hearted lol
Sometimes you have to for sanity
You know I get it now after 3 years..!!!!!
I’d say me neither…and i know these people they are fucked up that’s why…no compassionate true loving person could do this otherwise. It’s one of the worst selfish actions one can do to another…….word of advice *have no expectations of anything* practice non attachment….and love purely namaste ( )
I’m like that…but it’s usually after I have given the person millions of chances…but if we don’t vibe…we don’t vibe.
Its à terribel degré of pain …that s what u dont get
Takes a lot of courage.
I get it now , they never where like you.
Maybe they truly didn’t care.it’s what worked for them for a time.Good ones to stay away from.
But some people are always in your thoughts no matter what happens..they just remain a ghost in your heart.
Because they have plenty of options and if u consider urself as one of their option…. u will understand it’s not a big deal for them…..
I really don’t think anyone forgets. They just act like it. Either we have little to no contact (they haven’t forgotten) or they do really do forgive and forget.
That is what I do…forgive and forget…it took me a long time to learn this…but I finally have
We never forget that is the problem
Not necessarily about boyfriends or girlfriends, it could also be about parents. SAD
Sister or child too
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