How to Play the Narcissist’s Game And Beat Them At It

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3. If you focus too much on self-preservation, you may find yourself exhibiting certain classic narcissistic behaviors. But if you focus too little on it, you find yourself being a typical “narcissistic abuse victim.” (See how I didn’t say “SURVIVOR” there?)

4. During the course of a relationship with a narcissist, especially a toxic one, you’re going to find yourself sliding back and forth on a sort of track between the two extremes.

So, the actual objective of the game is to simply keep spinning, stay on that sliding track, and inside of the narcissist’s so-called harem. To just simply KEEP THE GAME GOING.

Another super-fun fact about narcissists?

They like to play both sides; that is, one day, they might play a victim who needs rescuing (damsel in distress, anyone?) while the next day, they’ll find center stage by becoming someone’s savior.

Related: 4 Key Behaviors A Narcissist Displays That Reveals Their True Colors

The Players

Your role as a player in the narcissistic game is fluid – sometimes, you’ll be the victim who needs to be rescued. And when the narcissist wants to be rescued? You’ll be the hero.

Either way, don’t try to steal his spotlight. He won’t like that one bit.

But then again, sometimes, the narcissist will need to crush someone’s soul – and guess what friend? That’d be your role, too – the crushee, of course.

The Rule That Overpowers All Rules

No matter what, you must keep the game going. It’s absolutely necessary for both parties to participate if one of you (the narcissist) is going to win in the end.

Oh yes, that’s the last rule: you WILL NOT win. You can’t, because even if by all logical standards and opinions, you are the clear-cut winner, the narcissist will never, ever acknowledge, admit or encourage you to discuss it. He will instead find literally any reason to place the fault on someone else and to artificially elevate his own fragile ego.

So, in short:

1. The object of the game is to keep the game going.

2. The biggest rule of the game is that both parties must participate in the game.

3. The other rule of note is that you cannot win the game.

Related: 5 Effective Ways To Deal With The Narcissist In Your Life

Okay, so let me ask you: why are you playing this game again?

Here is how you win that game – the ONLY move that will save you: you get the hell out of it. You leave, you quit, you end it. GAME OVER.

That is how you beat the narcissist at his game. You leave.

That’s it.

And this video will offer you more actionable strategies on how to play the narcissist’s game and beat them at it.

How to Play the Narcissist’s Game And Beat Them At It

Written by Angie Atkinson
Originally appeared on Queenbeing.com
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Angie Atkinson

Certified Life Coach, Author, Survivor. Discover, Understand and Overcome Narcissistic Abuse with Certified Life Coach, author and survivor Angie Atkinson, a recognized expert in narcissism in relationships and narcissistic personality disorder. As creator of the DUO Method of Healing, it's her mission to to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires - into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. As you can see when you visit the freebies page at QueenBeeing.com, Atkinson's online daily magazine, she's all about paying it forward.View Author posts