How To Overcome Expectation

 March 07, 2019

How To Overcome Expectation

Péter Müller, a Hungarian writer and one of the best-known figures in spiritual literature in Hungary, formulated very neatly,  “Spread around you the love! The warmth of love. Even though nobody is there. At least you are in that warmth, not in the ice-cold, negligent stolid world. Even though this warmth diffuses only from you. Maybe they gather around you.”

Yes, we all desire love. But I am sure that, if we are love, if this warmth radiates from us, many cold, shivering people will be warmed. It is not necessary to wait for people to come and expect to be fed this love. Fire may melt and shape iron, turning the solid into liquid, without a struggle or much effort.


Burn the pain and be the water

Be like fire with your pains. Burn them to ashes, regardless of how big and rugged your trunk is, how gnarled and twigged it is. It takes time to set a fire. It starts to burn slowly, but when the flames grow, it burns everything, leaving behind only the dust. It becomes shapeless, and it is impossible to recognize it’s origin because it will come to naught.

In contrast, be like water, be what you are: flexible and adaptive. By that, I do not mean compromise or do something that is not you; I do not mean sabotage your virtue. Because, on this path, if you burn the root of your pains with this inner fire, the crown also dies with it. It will not bear rotten fruit any more because of the deterioration; no rotten fruit is produced. These will be your new seeds that you plant, simultaneously, by burning your pains and being flexible. Being like water, however, is your guarantee and the everyday proof of life that you understood life itself. You understood yourself and accepted others; detached from everything, attached to nothing, and at one with everything.

“Be like water, making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”

– Bruce Lee

Problems are lifted off your shoulders because you experienced the difference. That tenseness is only created when the results do not meet the expectations or the world is not how we want it. If the results are not as we expected from ourselves, then we can develop to meet our expectations, and the world has to be colorful in order to discover. You will not expect unreal things from yourself or from others. You can hear your higher-self, listen to the monition of your spiritual being, and you do not ask for the impossible. You accept the warning, you choose the conscious instead of unconscious. You are responsible for everything you think, for yourself, because you grasped the reasons toward intentions. You are love.

A giant cube has no corners, Tao teaches.

Therefore, the road of light seems to be dark, the road leading forward seems to lead backwards instead. The silky road seems to be bumpy, as the whitest one seems to be smeared. The high virtue seems to be less, and the strengthening of virtue seems to weaken. But, whoever understands that the mind and spirit gains consciousness only through unity, will understand that contrasts are only illusions of our lives.

Without the unified vision of the opposites, there is no consciousness. Thus, fire becomes water, fire is water and water is fire itself.

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